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Podcast Episode 07 - Empath Unplugged with Esther Bertram

How Can Empaths Work With the Power of Intention & Dominate Realities?

In this episode of the Empath Unplugged podcast, empath Esther Bertram shares how empaths can work with the power of intention.
If you’re not familiar with the concept of intention, it’s basically the act of setting a goal or desired outcome and then taking action steps to make it happen.
For empaths, who are often highly sensitive and prone to picking up on the energies of others, setting intention can be a helpful tool to create boundaries and focus on what they want to manifest in their own lives.
In this episode, Esther shares some wild tales from S&M fetish clubs to intensive lucid dreaming training as well as her own experiences with setting intention as an empath. She also provides some tips on how to get started should you wish to dominate in your own life!
If you’re an empath who is struggling to create the life you want, or if you’re just curious about how intention can help, this episode is for you!
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00:01
Esther Bertram
Welcome to Empath Unplugged, a frequent release podcast of RAW and philosophical reflections on wellbeing, love, and the meaning of life. Brought to you by your host, Esther Bertram, founder of the Inzel, a rejuvenation island and community for empaths. Expect topics such as philosophy, psychology, art, culture, spirit, science, holistic health, and the occasional beach fire song to be part of your wonder ride to your Oceanside escape. It's time to breathe in the salty air and bask in the soothing warm sun to relax, reflect and vibe along with a fellow empath to rejuvenate. As most episodes refer to my 1-2-3 theory, I will provide an overview of it here for new listeners.
00:49
Esther Bertram
Feel free to skip ahead 4 minutes if you know it already. In my twenties I created 2 interlocking theories as I needed a framework for three reasons. One, to know how to optimise my holistic wellbeing to to have mutually beneficial relationships and letting go of toxic relationships and tangle nations with narcissists 3 to have lots of time and energy to give in to my positive impact businesses and contribute to the world in a meaningful way. I've now spent two decades putting the theories into practice. When they work, hence me now sharing them with the world. The 1-2-3 theory is a way to assess if you are optimised and able to give the most amount of love and energy to the world for the longest sustained time.
01:38
Esther Bertram
The five finger theory explores each domain of holistic health and works in conjunction with the 1-2-3 theory and helps you calibrate each department. To have maximum output in your life, the 1-2-3 theory states you need to be in the order of the 1-2-3-1 is yourself. Two are your loved ones. Three is the rest of the world or your contribution. When you nurture your holistic wellbeing, first one, then you are better able to have mutually beneficial relationships too.
02:15
Esther Bertram
And as a byproduct of this combination, you have so much excess energy to give three your contribution to the world. This order of the 1-2-3 ensures maximum output in all departments for the longest duration. Some people are three two ones or three one twos, putting their cause, business or mission before anything else. This isn't sustainable long term if you value health and relationships. Many empaths, like I was in the past, have the default setting of being a 2-1-3 giving to others before themselves, but that blocks their flow into their three and as a consequence, they have little time and energy for their contribution.
03:00
Esther Bertram
It's particularly dangerous to be a 2-1-3 when you are together with or around a narcissist, as they are double one two threes or double one three twos where they put themselves first twice in an energy vamping way when an empath has it too at the start, giving to others first. This fits like a jigsaw into the narcissist double one. This bond is notoriously risky for empaths and often hard to break, so I'm on a mission to help. Empaths become strong one two threes. Or would I like to call super empaths so they can thrive in life, love and work, and not get caught wasting years of their precious life in tangled nations? This podcast, the empath community I have built and my book the 1-2-3 theory are all part of achieving this mission.
03:53
Esther Bertram
To dive deeper into both theories, head over to the123theory.com where you can read or listen to my book. Now that you have the basic gist of the 1-2-3 theory, let's begin this podcast. Hello listeners, welcome to episode number seven. Today, we're going to be exploring the topic of intentions and how we can create and manifest and live in realities that better match our desired outcomes.
04:29
Esther Bertram
Living intentionally is a wonderful skill to be able to harness, and I think it's even more important that empaths learn this. So we can implement it in our day-to-day I know I needed to go through a big journey on the topic of learning how to harness intentions and I think. All people, all people, whether you're empath or not, want to control reality in some respect to have your desired outcomes. And even if you're an empath, that where your desire is to benefit others, big shout out to the two one threes in the house.
05:14
Esther Bertram
We still have our preferences. And not all empaths want to feel dominated unless you're into s and m, which will actually get to later in this episode. I think most of us want to feel empowered and impactful and I would say most humans or sentient beings have wishes and desires and. Working with the power of intention is a really good utility to have. These can you say that a utility to have no kind of artillery in your box of tools to use? For achieving that and yeah, thriving in the world. So that's what we're up against today and. I think we'll start with why it's it is more important for empaths, I think.
06:14
Esther Bertram
Our biggest issue is the noise of others. Now I don't mean noise as in audio noise, although it can be, it sometimes can be that. But I feel like. Empaths where like radios and. When you tune into subtle energies or intentions and desires of others and people's realities, there are a lot of different signals coming in, and often by default we are receivers and not generally transmitters.
06:48
Esther Bertram
Although there are some alpha empaths, absolutely and some learn to be alpha empaths when you are in the entertainment world or some kind of profession that. Requires you to be a transmitter. Often you have to learn those skills, but generally I would say most empaths are receivers. So this noise of others, and I often I like to call it the ocean of emotion because I feel like all around us as empaths is this big ocean of emotion from everywhere. If we meet someone in the street or in the supermarket, you see somebody struggling, an old man to cross the road and.
07:33
Esther Bertram
I don't know. Your heart just almost falls out of its chest to help them. Because you you can go on all kinds of journeys at any moment just by tuning into. The plight of others. And I think until we have really rock solid boundaries and finally tune our our antenna. So we just have selective input and we are often swayed by others. And it's a, it's a, it's a one of our biggest issues we have to face and learn when we're becoming. Empowered what I like to call super empaths and. Yeah, because when others are dominating our reality, they just often get the upper hand and we can just, you know, feel at the mercy.
08:27
Esther Bertram
Of them. Um, and it's sometimes, yeah, you don't even notice it till after it's happened or is happening and. I think taking a step back, analysing how we behave and think and feel in various situations as a default and working out techniques we can use for improving our interactions and to optimize for a better outcome for all, that's anyway that's why this podcast was created, so it's to help.
08:58
Esther Bertram
Have some new ways, new approaches and yeah. I especially I want to help empaths not always play second fiddle to other people's desires and. All the two one threes and three two ones and three one twos out there. I implore you to. Bring forward your one to bring forward the one so you can, yeah, you can really thrive over a sustained period. So if we look at how the world well, how Darwin has put it and how the world often seems to work.
09:41
Esther Bertram
It seems that it prioritises and the survival of the fittest. And the strongest to push forward to evolve and. This isn't always fair, if you ask me if the feelers the empaths of the world automatically get. Placed as the submissives. Just because we can truly empathise, it's not fair if the stronger dominant ones just, you know, trample us or bulldoze us around. Because we deserve to dominate sometimes, even just if we want to.
10:22
Esther Bertram
We, and I don't mean dominate in a. Bad way, I mean it in a in a way where we can just. Be ahead of ourselves to control the realities outcome. Because we want that to happen, and that can be if your intentions are good and your. Often ampath care about the holistic wellbeing of all parties involved. That's a wonderful skill to be able to have because you're actually having a bigger output for everybody and. Yeah, I I think that this is just a good thing to have in your kit to be able to.
11:03
Esther Bertram
Utilise at certain times because then. Yeah, we can play in life. So in this podcast I'm going to give you a few tips how to do that. And it's very it's this is a big topic for me because it it was so pivotal to my. To my whole life journey up till now actually and I'm gonna have a few flashbacks in this because it's. It's not just the surface idea. For me, this has been a very, very probably the deepest.
11:38
Esther Bertram
Self exploration experience I have had. And through my dream work. And then I'll get to that in a minute. But first I'm gonna do a flashback since I brought it up at the start about domination and submission. There was a very peculiar and interesting time of my life back when I lived in the UK where? A friend of mine, he was very much into the fetish scene and. And M and this whole world that I had no idea about or like. I I I had a wrong opinion of actually cause I always just thought ohh my God what's that's just weird and bizarre and.
12:26
Esther Bertram
I just didn't even think I wasn't ever attracted to it for myself or. Ever thought I'd be involved in any way with it? Although I happened to have some costumes that fit that well because of my performing life. But anyway, I ended up in this fascinating period of my life when he and I were hanging out a lot as friends. And this was his world. And he took me. He took me to some really interesting parties.
13:01
Esther Bertram
There are a few private ones on kind of rural properties in English fields where it was fully decked out with. Screens and pulls and these little rooms with peepholes and ladies, electrocuting people and. Crawling people and whipping people and all kinds of every kind of people and. Interestingly, the most interesting thing I found about observing cause I've always loved looking at people and observing, especially trying to understand the psychology and drives and motivations and wishes and dreams and hopes and fears of people. Because I find human existence just fascinating. And when you watch people cause, they all have different ways of being and different histories.
14:01
Esther Bertram
You can learn a lot and what I found at these particular parties was. Before I went to them, I thought it's just gonna be weird and bizarre and I don't understand. But what I found is when I had conversations with people. They were some of the most authentic and real. And deep chats I could ever imagine on a party environment because. It was like. I think I can explain it a bit like an onion layer. If you imagine as we grow up we have all the different onion layers of ourselves, and when we're a child, we're just a really tiny little onion with a few little layers.
14:51
Esther Bertram
And we might go through some trauma and there's some trauma layers and then we go through growing up and teenage layers and everything. I feel like at these parties when I'd have conversations. A few of the surface level layers that humans just have as an adult in the world, they were already gone. And then normally if they were a banker and they just go to the bank and talk about Banky kind of things when you go and talk there, all of those few layers were gone and it was already. Deeper, because the people that were really in this scene had such had a different level of consciousness and self-awareness and self exploration actually.
15:38
Esther Bertram
That they were living quite intentionally about going to layers of themselves wherever they were in in their growing up layer. And exploring it and presenting it and interacting with it and. It was less weird and bizarre. It was more real and more authentic than if I compare it to a regular night out at a normal club. So if I went to one of those club nights under the arches in Brighton and just normal, you know, pop, whatever, rock, Leno house music, whatever different event it was. And compare it to, you know, you being there and you've got all these drunk groping guys kind of falling on you.
16:27
Esther Bertram
With no consciousness and superficial chit chat about who you are, what do you do for work? And basically, then not really. People I even want to talk to because they're so inebriated and I can't even say that word, but that word kind of explains its own self. You know, I didn't. I hardly actually went to night clubs like that because it was, I found it really boring cause I prefer, you know, consciousness and depth anyway. Going if I compare the two, the s and m fetish knights, although they're into some quirky things.
17:05
Esther Bertram
The conversations and the intentional living was so. Present and real. I just found it fascinating and they weren't really drunk people like it was a lot more almost staged and theatrical and attention to detail with all of the beautiful costumes and and. Yeah, they called it playing like I was invited to play or do you wanna play? And I didn't. Actually, I I only had one or two little dalliances if that's what you can call it. I'm not going to go into now. Little experiences in it. I'm mostly was an observer at the parties that I went to and a conversationalist but. I found that, yeah, this dominant submissive.
17:58
Esther Bertram
Exchange world was really interesting and it has a great place for. People like. I imagined it would really work for. Just say he is a scenario a. You know, I really. He could even be really empathic female who's been through trauma of some kind, quite young and they need to learn how to control reality and. They might grow up to be quite a control freak or quite bossy because they had so much lack of control when they were younger, so they're very. You know, they become a boss lady. They might even become a CEO of a company or I don't know, they just find situations where they feel like they're in control and they orchestrate realities where there's control and.
18:53
Esther Bertram
They don't want to ever return back to the onion layer of when they were a child. And didn't have an adult around that was, you know, responsible? So at these parties, and I notice this on a few occasions. There there was one person in particular where in the normal waking world they were a boss lady, but in this playing reality. They had a safe space to be a submissive and be dominated in a way that has a safe. Framework parameter that they know that, then it's not going to get too out of control. So they know that it's more of a game, but it's they're able to release this deeper pain.
19:50
Esther Bertram
That they went through in an artistic way, in a way, and in a human. Exchange way, and that side of it is about how the psyche works and healing and process and human experience is honestly it was really fascinating anyway. So that yin and Yang dominance submissive is. A common theme, I think, in so much of our life, and especially when it comes to intentional living, because I think we can sometimes shy away from as empaths being a dominant.
20:35
Esther Bertram
Possibly because we identified dominance, maybe as the narcissists, because we think, are they just? They just want everything their way, but there's a big difference between a narcissist. And intentional living. Because the narcissist is just serving their own agenda they don't give a shit about. Others as much, or they might pretend to. And have an illusion of that if they're manipulating a situation, but they ultimately it's just about them. Whereas intentional living and finding your own way to dominate reality, and especially if you've got a good soul and a good heart and you're benefiting everybody, is just a fantastic tool to be able to have and. If you want to become a sole warrior on a triumphant quest, it's something that's absolutely necessary, especially as a.
21:31
Esther Bertram
Fully fledged, empathic, open heart. We need to have some tools to defend ourselves and protect and strive forward in life, yes, so, although I didn't go to too many of those parties, just a handful over a year or so. It was a very interesting time and if there was one big takeaway, it's that play is important and I think that's what I wanna bring to you in this podcast that. What I'm going to teach you is a few things about how you can play with that power and.
22:06
Esther Bertram
The story I really want to tell you is the deep history of where this concept of intention. Was experienced profoundly in my own life and what I did with it after I'd learned about it. So it started back in 1999 I was in my third year of university. I did 4 altogether studying music. And I was living in a beautiful out in the hills, a place called Rosebank, which is inland from Byron Bay. In new south wales, in Australia, and it's just magical there it was a big house on a side of a hill with the whole Creek River at the bottom of the hill that was private that you could just swim in, and there was an Aboriginal sacred site down by the river and old.
22:57
Esther Bertram
A rock that had been carved out for washing and. It was a. An absolutely magical place to live and at the time I had a very supportive partner. He was like my rock and an anchor. He very much believed in me and my intuition and my dreams and. Having him there actually enabled this self work to happen and commence that year and. I actually planned to do one year of dream training and I just set myself on a on my own course with it, because I've I've been a lucid dreamer all my life.
23:38
Esther Bertram
Started as a child and. They were getting quite strong at that property as well and I decided to dive into the experience and I was at university, but at the same time I was doing night time university in my dreams to study. And it was. It was the most fascinating dream year of my life, and I'd already started at an in part way into it. I got the book, Carlos Castaneda, the art of dreaming and that just. Catapulted it into the next level and.
24:17
Esther Bertram
So I wasn't. I was having lucid dreams almost every single night. And was taken to absolutely. I I I can't even. It's so hard to even put it into words. And I still don't understand how that all works. I don't know if they're real worlds. I don't know if they're just worlds I've created in my own head. I don't. I don't. I don't wanna classify it. All I know is I've had the experience. I still don't have all the answers of what really went on.
24:49
Esther Bertram
But I do know why it went on. So during that year I would have. It was always a quest. I was always. It was a bit like the Matrix. It was also when Matrix actually came out and I was having. A similar experience in a way, where I had to fight all the time. It was always these situations. Like once I was against this ginormous robot and there were a lot against demons. There was this witch lady. Our character and maybe even vampires. I can't quite remember. I'll have to find my book and have a looks quite a while ago now. And wear a lot of demonic ones like light versus dark.
25:32
Esther Bertram
It was that kind of play out of worlds and. It was yeah. Every single night I had to fight and. I would often wake up kind of shaking and my partner would kind of ground me straight away cause he knew what I was doing and. Yeah, it was. It was really out there. And it was relentless because it was every night and it felt like it was for hours and hours and it was for a year. So it it was, yeah, just mind blowing anyway.
26:11
Esther Bertram
At the very end of this year. I could boil the whole experience, and I also met my guides, by the way, and I don't even know if I believe in guides, but I met my leitzu, a Chinese man, and he's one of my secondary guides on Helena, apparently my primary guide who? She was my sister in the Atlantis period, I've been told by another man, and anyway, that's another whole story, and I still don't even know if that's all real or if my fantasy of full head makes all that up, but I certainly had lucid dreams where I'm aware of the dream meeting these energies.
26:52
Esther Bertram
And I still don't know what what's real and what's not. But I will. Yeah, I I I love that I've had the experience regardless of what it really was. I don't like to qualify any dogma with any anything. Just talk about the experience. So the two outcomes, because every situation I was in, it was almost like I'd try to fight often or then flight. I flew all the time and it did a lot of flying, having to ride my own mind to see how fast I could fly to escape.
27:28
Esther Bertram
And when I found the balance between. Setting intending, dominating my own mind, but letting go that toggle between is when I would fly the fastest and it was finding it was really training. It was literal training between. Having the. Sharpest outcome desire and the allowance of working with energetic energy energies around me so. When I came away from this whole experience, it could boil down to one word, and it was intention. Because that was the thing.
28:12
Esther Bertram
That was my tool. That I could work with to leave her through the scenarios and it was like whether it was my mind creating. These worlds just to train this skill of intention or whether it was something external creating them, I I still don't know. So that was the one takeaway. And I'll get to get back to how I've implemented that in my life, but the second takeaway was.
28:41
Esther Bertram
Another weapon I could use in the scenarios to win and I didn't work that out for ages, especially with the demonic energy. There was this boy demon that was you know like my nemesis and often in the scenarios and it was very frightening when you when you have that energy and. My skill was to fly fast away and dominate my own intentions to getaway faster. But then I started to try the fight method rather than the flight method and facing facing the fear because I guess it represented fear having that dark energy and. The time I finally.
29:29
Esther Bertram
Was able I actually did not fly. I faced him and he just stared at me. And I tried something different. I opened my heart as wide as I could. It was felt so vulnerable, honestly. Like it's so counterintuitive when you're faced with something that. Could end you. And I walked. I literally walked towards him and I told him I loved him and I meant it and I was blown open. My heart was so open. And he. He nailed it. That was it. That was the tool. The love literally conquered the fear. And it took me, I don't know, hundreds of nights to get there, but. It was I didn't the IT was almost like game over.
30:23
Esther Bertram
I I'd won the game, I'd worked it out, I'd found the key and he didn't come back and I that was it. It was that part of my lesson was over, which was fantastic, because it was pretty damn frightening. Some of them would just really frightening. But ultimately, I yeah, I was able to. Hanna's intention and use the power of love and. The hippie ideals come back again, and I got to experience it. What that actually means? Anyway, so that was where it birthed from or came from originally, and I then needed to implement in my waking life. The power of intention and the power of an open heart as well, and a trusting heart, and an optimistic Intune intuitive heart so.
31:22
Esther Bertram
My life dramatically changed then. I'd come from. Situations that were not. Conducive in especially in high school. To me, thriving, and from this point on, I was at university I. That it working very carefully with setting very clear intentions. And as an empath. It was absolutely necessary, especially. When I was still so easily swayed by things. So the biggest achievement that I did quite soon after that year, so that was 1999 into 2000 so 2001 I left Australia and it was a very back then in 2001 the world was very different emails and Google wasn't as easy as it was. Flights were expensive, Australia was we.
32:28
Esther Bertram
We're still here on the very bottom of the world, but back then it was even further away because of. The fact that we weren't as in a connected world back then, so. My partner and I put I put all pictures of Germany all around on every door and made-up some my own rituals about. How to intend to get to Germany even though we just left university, didn't have any money between us and didn't come from? Rich families that could just pay the way or anything.
33:02
Esther Bertram
But I I'm actually gonna this has given me an idea for my next podcast about synchronicity. Some weird shit happened, uh, mixed with the power of intention. So the power of intention was this force in the middle that I was setting clearly, and then the universe and. The external flow started doing some things and it always feels weird when it's outside of yourself. But, um, it enabled it to happen and yeah, within a couple of months. So that was then may. From I don't know. It's only the first part of the year. Then yeah, was able to fly off and follow my dreams to be.
33:48
Esther Bertram
I'm travelling musician around the world and since then I have never looked back and have worked with intention since then to achieve. My desired outcomes and. Yeah, I am gonna go into this synchronous sneakers. A few things happened along that journey and still happened. That yeah a very interesting. So I probably will do the podcast about that. That's the number 8. Anyway, so that is where it came from. That is where how I started to implement it. I won't go into how I use it all the time because there's just too many stories to say.
34:29
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I I wanna go now more into the practical of how you can. Become the king or the queen of your domain, reality and or if you don't want to be a king or a queen, that's just the. The residing leader of your reality and used the power of intention to encourage the outcome of what you want it to be. So, basic manifestation one oh 1-0-1. Um, but normally? We can't control everything because unfortunately we're not in a full Unicorn and rainbows universe as much as I often feel that I am already but. We can come close when we when we can influence the outcome with intention.
35:18
Esther Bertram
And we don't give us ourselves as much credit as we should because. We can do a lot more with with our mind than yeah, it's like. Honestly, it's like building a muscle when you go to the gym and you everyday work on your biceps, I think. Manifestation and intention setting. It just takes practice and perseverance and yeah, knowing the technique and practising so if. If reality is like playdough or plasticine. And that actually makes me think of um. The science of getting rich. Is that what it's called? Waddles, I'll have a look and I'll probably put it in the notes. He says there's a thinking stuff from what which all things are made that reminds me of this.
36:12
Esther Bertram
And if there if it is like that, if reality is like this plasticine and malleable in any given scenario. I firmly believe it's the dominant intention that will prevail, so it's definitely worth putting effort into it. All right. So it's going to be a three-step process 1-2-3-1-2-3 in a different way this time, so. Step one. Is gathering your energy and using your force. So I just want you to collect all thoughts and feelings you've given away to every person out there.
36:51
Esther Bertram
Or being or. Spread around your house. Just pull it all. Call it all back to yourself. If it helps you, you could do this if you're not driving or somewhere public. If you're just at home, you could actually use your body. I don't do this by the way, but it may help to fast track it, cause body In Sync with mind and.
37:15
Esther Bertram
Heart is probably gonna help. You could stabilise your feet and just put them a little bit apart in a really strong. Position with your palms open and justice, imagine you're pulling in the force of all of your energy back to yourself. And be very present. In this moment now and feel that life force through your entire being. Save your you're energised. And very present, and you're at the maximum of your power, so. Almost like um. Yeah, pressing your engage button. To turn your ignition on of your full working machine.
38:03
Esther Bertram
Ok, so once you've gathered your energy. You're in your stance. I want you to imagine you are the world's best Archer. Okay so get your bow and arrow. And you're a precision Archer. And Step 2 is when we do the aiming and this is the. Crucial point for when you set the intention with the with your bow and arrow. So your arrow is your intention. And pull back with that power that you've mustered. You're full energy. Remember, you're the world's best Archer. Pull it back and aim on the target.
38:50
Esther Bertram
Do not do anything else yet. Think about something that's probably gonna occur in the next 24 hours, or something you want to occur. Or might be an interaction you're going to have. You might be going to work and you want to have a really brilliant day. Whatever it is, think about that thing in every little detail. The best version of that outcome that you could possibly and think, put it into the arrow and the aim on the target and go through in your mind every little detail in.
39:28
Esther Bertram
A I am state rather than an I want, so don't say I want to have a good day at work. I am having the best day at work. I have the best day at work. You already own it, dominate it. So now look at your arrow. Whatever that is. I want to feel energised today. No, you won't say that I am energised today. Now aim for that target. Put all of your energy into that arrow. You can say affirmations if you want.
40:08
Esther Bertram
And just remember. Our subconscious is. How I see it is we have our conscious mind and our subconscious mind. Our subconscious mind is almost like neutral soil. And it just grows whatever seeds we put into there, so if you're not really intentional. And you have bad habits or bad trauma or things that have happened. They can grow all kinds of things in your subconscious and your waking reality is affected by that when you said clear intentions.
40:39
Esther Bertram
You are planting seeds. Positive seeds into your subconscious, and your subconscious just takes whatever you give it it. It's neutral. And it will grow that for you. So this is the point. While we're facing that target, we are planting, if that's a better metaphor for you. You're planting seeds into your subconscious. That will grow into your flowers of your dreams. Okay once you've done your planting or you're aiming. Step 3. Is letting go. Just let it go. After you've done that full sharp power, let it go. Now this is the key point actually, because. And that's why the word dominant is a bit. Maybe it's led down the wrong way because we want to dominate our intention, but we do not want to dominate and force the outcome.
41:42
Esther Bertram
We need to allow space, because the universe does work in mysterious ways. You can't. I don't think an Archer pulling back an arrow would let go and hold onto the arrow and run with the arrow all the way to the target and force it into the. That's defeating the purpose. It you need to let it go, let the breeze, let the sunshine, let the. Mysterious things happen and when you're planting seeds into your subconscious. Things will emerge in life and you will see patterns because our brains are wired to see patterns.
42:17
Esther Bertram
That's where weird synchronicities can start happening externally. It feels external, but it's probably happening internally and mirroring externally cause the world seems to be a mirror. But when you find that perfect little toggle between setting that intention and letting go and allowing. The universe to work with you. It's a little bit like how nature works and when you look, when you go into nature there's. This very serene harmony about it. Where there is striving, but also destruction and letting go.
42:56
Esther Bertram
And it's this balance where you're a dancer within it all. So for me that's. Like I said in my dream training, when I was able, when I was flying, it was always about the speed I could fly. If I could. Toggle between that clearest intention, but letting go I would suddenly zip forward faster. And it's a it's this nuanced little Goldilocks section where when you have that balance of both. It's just that's when it happens. And look, if you're just new to intending and manifesting, I would start with small things and then you'll get a feedback loop, cause when you see that it works, it'll confirm to you that it does work and you'll believe in it more and you can try for a bigger thing and.
43:45
Esther Bertram
It's a feedback loop of positive experience, and it can grow stronger than anyway. So that's the core of it. It's master aim. Let go three-step process. And if you want to. Have guidance with that everyday. I created a meditation. It's about grounding and protection, but I've added a whole section. In that for daily intending within, it has a little bit about the bow and arrow and the Archer. If you go onto the insel.com and just look for the menu item free meditation it's you can do that because especially for a few days to get the body memory if you do it regularly.
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Esther Bertram
It goes into your body memory. And it's becomes easy. You can just, you know, you don't have to stand there in this commanding force. You can just be shooting arrows everywhere with your mind and intending because you've just got so used to doing it so yeah, and you'll start seeing the world bending towards your desired outcomes and. Yeah, if we don't do this. I think empaths were were very prone to being swept up into other other? Agendas and so I think just learning this already just to compensate just to get us on an even playing field is a good idea.
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Esther Bertram
Even if you don't become a. Absolute master Archer, but you're already less prone to people. Putting you on their arrows and you flying along in the world on their arrows. Sometimes it's better if you want to create your own realities. Anyway, that's a core skill I would say we should have in our Super Empath toolkit. And yeah, I think it might be story time because this is 1 section.
45:54
Esther Bertram
I wrote a book when I was in England called November Fox and she travels dimensions of consciousness to unlock. A cube that represents, actually the five finger theory. So it's mind, heart, body, sole, purpose and facing shadows. And there's one scene where she is learning about the power of intention in the desert. So I'm going to get leave you with that. Section of the book today. And I'll be back for a wrap up after that. Maybe I can use the power of intention to travel across the desert.
46:29
Esther Bertram
No harm in trying. She stood, legs slightly apart. As she focused her eyes on the tower, she sharpened her attention on her destination. With all her might, she concentrated on her goal. I intend to cross this desert now. November grew lighter. She lifted off the ground and moved towards her target. Hey, this works, OK, faster, she said aloud, keeping her vision fixed on the large column. Even faster. She flew across the desert, the wind no longer a counter force. Every time her attention wandered or she tried to force the movement, she slowed down. November toyed with a toggle in her mind that switched between discipline and letting go.
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Esther Bertram
It was like learning to ride a wild horse. The more she allowed it to gallop towards the fixed focal point, the speedier she raced. She kept her intention focused. While surrendering to the energy that was present. The balance enabled her dominion over her thoughts, allowing the movements to happen on their own. I can ride you mind, she called out as she sped through the barren, burnt landscape. She arrived at the base of the tower in no time. Klaus, she sang out, coming up behind him he he screamed, whipping around. It's only me how what? How so fast? I have my own BMW after all, November said proudly.
48:06
Esther Bertram
Before heading towards the stairway that ran in spirals up the outside of the tower, November gave one last apprehensive glance at the horizon. And it's hard to catch, she whispered. Watching November command her body and summon her flying ability triggered the memory of my first attempt to ride Charlie. What a disaster. It was the evening of my Sterling Service event, and the elders were quite merry from all the wine.
48:35
Esther Bertram
My father, in a slurred yet still commanding tone, instructed me to fly for the first time, and he wished me to do so before them all. With jittery limbs I unrolled little Charlie and sat on him, cross legged and stroked his plush surface, which calmed me. I looked towards the swaying and jeering elders, wondering what to do. Nothing happened. Before anything comes vision. Without vision, you will go nowhere, my father boomed. I closed my eyes and imagined Charlie lifting into the air with all my mind power.
49:14
Esther Bertram
When I opened my eyes, I was hovering a few meters above the ground. I was so excited and proud that when I glanced to my father and the others for approval, Charlie fell and I rolled off onto the floor. The crowd exploded with hysterical wine enhanced laughter mortified i scurried off to my cocoon. Be prepared to make a fool of yourself. The only way you will learn is when you're getting up off your knees after some humiliation.
49:45
Esther Bertram
My father called out after me as I retreated in shame. For the first time since I've become the new boss. I miss my father. His words always carried much truth, despite their razor sharp edges. He was a monster of sorts, but he was my monster. So that was November Fox. If you want to learn more about November Fox or get the book, I highly recommend the audio book version. It seemed to land itself better as an audio book than the printed version. The narrator had a lovely voice, and he brought the characters to life, so you can head over to November fox.com if you want to listen to more of the story. As you heard just now.
50:31
Esther Bertram
Um, and that's the end of today's episode. Thank you so much. I'd like to do a shout out to those people. I've received a few really beautiful reviews on Apple Podcasts this week and. Just want to thank you for taking the time to do that. It means the world to me. It means that I know that this podcast is getting out there and helping some of your beautiful empaths. So thank you for that. It inspires me to keep making more for you. So big shout out to you guys. Thank you very, very much and I look forward to sharing a space with you on the next episode. Have a beautiful, lovely week bye.
51:14
Esther Bertram
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Esther Bertram
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