Podcast Episode 06 - Empath Unplugged with Esther Bertram
How Can Empaths Use Creative Expression to Unload Emotions?
In this episode of Empath Unplugged, Esther Bertram discusses how creative expression can be used to unload emotions. As empaths, we are constantly taking on the emotions of others, and it can be overwhelming. However, by using creative expression to unload these emotions, we can better take care of ourselves. There are many ways to be creative, and what works for one person may not work for another. Some people find that painting, drawing, or writing can be helpful, while others may prefer to express themselves through music or dance. The important thing is to find an outlet that allows you to connect with your own emotions and release them in a healthy way. Esther shares some tips on how to use creative expression to unload emotions, and how this can help us to feel better and be more productive.
Full Transcription
00:01
Esther Bertram
Welcome to empath unplugged. A frequent release podcast of RAW and philosophical reflections on wellbeing, love and the meaning of life brought to you by your host, Esther Bertram, founder of the Inzel, a rejuvenation island and community. For empaths, expect topics such as philosophy, psychology, art, culture, spirit, science, holistic health and the occasional beach fire song to be part of your wonder ride to your Oceanside escape. It's time to breathe in the salty air and bask in the soothing, warm sun to relax, reflect and vibe along with a fellow empath to rejuvenate.
00:43
Esther Bertram
Hello listeners, welcome to podcast number six. Today's topic is how to use creative expression to unload emotions. Now I'm broadcasting today from the inside where the sun is shining. The birds are singing the ocean over, there is glistening, and it's a perfect day to get in our creative spaces. And I feel like this is a topic I'm quite uniquely placed to talk about as I've been an empath all my life and a creative expression of if that's a word expressing my emotions creatively. All my life as well. I studied music from a very young age from actually kindergarten.
01:29
Esther Bertram
We were taken out of class for an hour each day. A small group of US and in an experimental project, and that ended up leading me to becoming a songwriter when I was 13 and studying composition at university for four years and then traveling from Australia to Europe for over a decade as a professional singer songwriter and it was literally the perfect outlet I could ever have had for. The amazing amount of emotions I have felt since I was a young child, so I've always felt things very deeply and strongly and it was it. Music has been a lifesaver and through all the turbulence that I've seen in various times of my life, from various factors, externally and internally.
02:26
Esther Bertram
Music has been a thread that has not only nurtured my soul, it's given me a safe outlet for excess positive and negative emotions cause both of them can lead you to be a bit wobbly. And when you express them, they no longer reside as strongly in your body. So you're more balanced again, so I'm excited to do this topic and. I'm on a mission to help as many empaths as I can to become what I call one two threes, which is down to the theory that I made called the 1-2-3 theory. If you wanna learn more, go to the one two three theory dot com and it's about prioritizing your own wellbeing as number one.
03:12
Esther Bertram
You number one is yourself, two is your loved ones, three as the rest of the world and when you keep it in that order you thrive and you can become a super empath and. I think most empaths would like to feel lighter and be able to dance through life without carrying the extra heavy baggage that we seem to do. And I've been through that period of my life where I was at 2-1-3 where others people's needs were more important than my own, and it feels really like you're just carrying all these baggages that have that don't even have wheels.
03:52
Esther Bertram
And they're not trolley. Luggage, they're just heavy and they make your shoulders hurt and. You just, yeah, it's like carrying the world on your shoulders and it's not very nice. And I think empaths, we want to clear ourselves from other people's emotions. We still want to be able to feel into them. It's a beautiful skill to have to have a deep empathy and be able to cross that bridge of empathy into other peoples realities.
04:21
Esther Bertram
And it can really help make the world a better place when we're able to do that. But there's a difference between crossing that bridge and experiencing someone's reality or then. Gathering all their baggage and having to cross the bridge back to our own island carrying all their shit with us. That's not ideally not ideal because it's not very productive or we can't be optimized because our hands are full, literally with other peoples stuff so. When we can creatively express. We can become especially in the sole department if you listen to the podcast number five.
05:07
Esther Bertram
The one before this is where I got the idea to do today's podcast. I talk about the five finger theory, which is the theory that I made up that connects with the 1-2-3 theory about holistic well being, and it covers the departments I feel is for me. I needed to focus on to get my holistic wellbeing thriving on all 5 cylinders and that's mind heart, body, soul and purpose. And in the sole department, being creative or even consuming other people's creativity, really, for me helps amplify that connection with the universe, because creativity to me is very deep. Reflection of all that is, and through the perspective of somebody that then expresses it outwardly. And it has the ability to transcend a lot of our.
06:06
Esther Bertram
Logic and reasoning and go truly just into a very deep expression of what it is to be human. In an existence that we live in and when we see perspectives from others that make us think or feel in any way, like sometimes we resonate with it and we go. Oh my God, I felt exactly that we might hear a love song and we're feeling in love. So therefore we connect on that level. But also we might see a piece of art that makes us feel something really negative.
06:43
Esther Bertram
And because it's jarring to our whole being. And that also gives us a new perspective of life because it's again travelling that empathy bridge into someone else's perspective and seeing life through their lens and how they creatively expressed. And that's also a wonderful thing to be able to do, because every reference point we have gives us more knowledge of the thing we're referencing against because you can't know something without a reference point. If you put something in space. Without anything else around. We could argue, does it even exist? Because there is nothing else but it, and it's only when you put objects in perspective and reference to each other that they almost come into existence, although that could be a rabbit hole, we might want to not want to cut down anyway.
07:40
Esther Bertram
The reason I've made today's podcast is purely for. Two things. One is boosting the sole part of our experience getting in touch with our creative inner child that is able to creatively reflect and express so we can unload emotions, but also in doing that we are strengthening our one. So we're becoming a better 1-2-3 rather than a 2-1-3 And the whole purpose of everything I'm doing at the moment is to help. Paths become shining 1-2-3 so they can go forth and conquer in the world with their diamond heart bright lights and help make the world a better place so. The reason I feel. Using creativity is so important is because often we are as empaths, the demands externally are so.
08:39
Esther Bertram
Waited on us and. We need to become a spring of energy and not just giving from a place of struggling for our own energy source. And when you're creatively expressing not only are you reading yourself of excess emotions that can topple you over, but you're also feeling your own cup and. It's part of that wellspring sauce that you can then give to other people, because when you're not doing that, we can often feel very depleted or overwhelmed and. Yeah, we're often serving other people's agendas rather than our own, and I've seen more often than not empaths becoming almost like emotional doormats.
09:26
Esther Bertram
And it's not sustainable to carry that much shit of other peoples. And we need to get it out of our bodies. Number one. We just got to rid ourselves of that because then we can have a much better boundary as well. So we can choose when and if we cross that bridge of empathy. For having a better outcome for all of the participants involved rather than just become a luggage carrier so.
09:59
Esther Bertram
The reason I feel like I'm well placed for this particular podcast topic is because, yeah, the two things one. I've been an empath since I was very young child, I've always felt. Subtle energies and things vary acutely with what's going on and needing to be on alert to tune into my environment. And I noticed it, especially in even in primary school. I got very affected when people were bullied and I used to stand up for them. I was actually, I hung out with the boys actually more than the girls because they played soccer and I love soccer and they'd let me play.
10:43
Esther Bertram
I was the only girl they'd let play cause I was able to, you know, be a bit rough as well. I was boyish enough for them and I played with them every day and but I had my girlfriends as well. But that actually placed me well to be a good advocate for bullying. So if I ever noticed any of the boys picking on a week of character or person or new person, I used to get very defensive and stand up for them because I could feel into the reality of the one they were getting picked on. And I just hated that injustice.
11:20
Esther Bertram
And i became aware then that I was very. I was feeling a lot of other people's stuff and when I was 10 from one minute to another I became a vegetarian cause i think I'm yeah, definitely an animal empath because I that was like a switch that just flicked because Mom brought me my dinner. Have chicken and I remember seeing it running around the room in my mind and I saw it as my friend and it was a horrific thought to consume. My friend and I was just disgusted and I was not a chance in the universe. I will ever eat one of my friends ever again and it was like from one to another flick.
12:08
Esther Bertram
That switch went and it's been like that ever since and I became vegan 23 years ago as well and. At that time, and I thank my mother for supporting that decision because it's quite a change. She comes from Finland and. You know there was quite a bit of meat in the not heaps of it, but you know it's meat and potatoes was quite a. Feature so she did so well to accept my change at such a young age and I thank her for that. But i remember already then the emotions were really strong in me for other people and other energy, and animal plights like what the innocents.
12:53
Esther Bertram
I never liked injustice of how animals are treated, how people were picked on. I then was the I was in the eighties when i was ten and. Also, we became more aware of the state of the world. I remember in Australia there was all these ads about people in Ethiopia starving and actually I was probably younger than 10 then mom told me a story that I. Took the rest of my dinner and put it in an envelope to send it to Ethiopia. I mean, it's ridiculous, but that it just hearing stories like that. I remember already feeling then that I was thinking a lot of. Other people's reality and wanting to play my part to help and feeling a bit helpless so music i was doing music every day, getting taken out of my class for an hour every single day for all of my primary school life.
13:49
Esther Bertram
Thanks to the Canberra School of Music and these Hungarian teachers that started this program when I happened to be in kindergarten, they started that year so I was in the first group and. Honestly, I'm so grateful to them, although it was pretty hardcore like we were studying Holst, the planets in year three I remember and like it was pretty out there. But that outlet and that connection with sound and music. It was just like a remedy to everything I was feeling cause I often felt like I'm a cup that's just overflowing with feeling too much. I was feeling too much of everybody and everything and. It's kind of plus not to mention home things going on with my father and Mother split when they when I was two because they were very young when they had me.
14:46
Esther Bertram
I 1819 and 20 so they're young hippies back then and I was going between the two like families with mom and then with my father in the Bush which was also a little bit. Yeah, like a seesaw and. When I became a songwriter and I picked up the guitar and my friend Neruda taught me some chords and mum showed me some things because she used to play a bit here and there.
15:15
Esther Bertram
I remember writing my first songs. I was around 13 and I was so. Happy that it was almost like. Just this little. Present package I could download all of the things that I felt and just put them in a safe little place rather than acting out. And I don't know becoming. Just overwhelmed with the emotions and sprouting it out and causing drama in life. I channeled the feelings that I was feeling and sometimes there were positive feelings that feeling too excited or too happy or too in love or too something. Anything that was too anything. The one that was screaming at me the loudest inside myself.
16:02
Esther Bertram
I would channel that into a song and put it in there in a nice little package. And it was getting out of my body. And that became almost just like food for me. I needed to do it as a part of, you know, emotional and mental hygiene. So I became a songwriter from then and studied it. I remember in year 12 there was some my father and stepmother were going through a 10 year.
16:30
Esther Bertram
Tumultuous breakup and I was putting all of that into song and my year 12 piece was an original. Really intense song which was a download of, my experience of that. And anyway, that led me to go off to university and study composition for four years before then leaving Australia and becoming a professional singer songwriter in Europe, which was wonderful because I was able to play my original songs in all over Europe as a almost I had to do it anyway for my emotional outlet. That I was fortunate enough to then get paid to do that, so I it was a wonderful decade and. I learned so much about the power of music and how it transcends all language, and I remember playing in Spain once and for some reason the Spanish people got my dark songs better than other countries and I thought they were all a happy culture and outward and party.
17:34
Esther Bertram
And you know, there were always wild audiences. But when I played my heavier, deeper. Darker songs, they just loved it. And yeah, I talked to somebody about it once and they couldn't even understand the words. But the vibe of it. And somebody told me about them like in the flamenco tradition. About this angst and depth and how there's these correlations between. These deep places of human experience you can go to and bring it into sound and.
18:11
Esther Bertram
I think that was one of the things that they resonated with anyway. In my twenties i started having my first more serious relationships and it became a very prolific time for my songs because I just had so much material because I was having highs and lows and tangled nations and so much reflection that needed to be expressed and. Yeah this I'm going to actually in some time at the end of this podcast I'll probably play. I'm gonna play actually one of my electronic songs today.
18:50
Esther Bertram
It's called in love and. Yeah, that song, for example. It was almost like. A protection for me not to fall in love well not end up in another triangulation because I rode it just when I got free from a very narcissistic. Relationship where he was a double three and i was two one three and we were like a jigsaw. My energy just fed into his double 1-1. And I finally got free, and that's when I made up my theories and I there was this dalliance of a very intense. Vibe going on with somebody, but it was so soon after I just got free and.
19:35
Esther Bertram
I didn't want to end up in a. Not that angulation and I'd made a. Like agreement to myself to become a one, a strong one before I enter into a another relationship, and by writing that song. About falling in love. It was almost like it was an avatar. I could experience it in song form and express what I was feeling so I didn't have to. Go through it as well and it wasn't the right time for us anyway. And it's a. Yeah, that's a whole interesting story on its own, but the function of the song was really perfect because I was able to get it out of myself anyway.
20:21
Esther Bertram
I'll play that at the end of the. At the end of the podcast has been song time. and. One thing I listened to this talk this week from a psychologist and it was interesting. I also already work with children under 5 as a Chief Marketing officer for a music company and I'm very aware of that under 5 is when we have our most amount of neural activity ever like our synapses, everything's all the pathways are firing like crazy. And then I listen to this talk this week from a psychologist which was really interesting.
21:00
Esther Bertram
And she said that how the brain works is. When it's having that really active period when we're really young, that's why it's really important to have children involved in all kind of creativity things and music, especially because it lights up all areas of the brain at once. If you don't use certain neural pathways in those years, going into growing into a child, she said it's like if you don't use it, lose it, and what ends up happening is your brain decides what are the pathways that it's going to need to survive and keep going and which ones are not used enough.
21:40
Esther Bertram
And they get I don't know, deactivated until you, later on in life, decide to reactivate them. And I found it quite interesting because I think I just took it for granted that I got to do music so young and my mom and my father both listened to so much music and I was around it from a young age. And then I entered this program in kindergarten and it was nurtured and I'm so grateful for that. Because as an empath, it's actually saved my life and. I think it's so important that. If you've got young children, please get them involved in music just, even if they're not an empath, it's just so good for the brain and development.
22:26
Esther Bertram
But if you're listening to this and you're one of these people that. All children are creative. They're painting pictures and they're doing music. And when you're young, you're just firing completely and trying all different things. But if you were in a situation where that wasn't nurtured and supported it, you might be in the category where you didn't use it, so you lost it and you might now. Possibly wrongly say, oh, I'm not creative or oh, I'm not an artist or I can't do music because those pathways may have been deactivated, but it's not saying that you can't open those pathways again, and that's what this podcast today's about it's to maybe inspire you to.
23:13
Esther Bertram
Open those pathways again, so it's specifically for people who don't think that they're creative. I actually would argue yes, you are. You just have gotten out of touch with how to allow that, and I'm going to give you some tips to get back in touch with it because it's a really efficient way of downloading emotions, not to mention all the other benefits and creating more meaning in life and. I just want to give before we go into that a little bit of a.
23:47
Esther Bertram
Philosophical look. Of what art actually is to me. So from my perspective, in its simplest form, I see art is just a reflection expressed. So it's a like the tide of an ocean, and if you imagine, just imagine at the back of yourself a mirror and. What happens is you get inputs from your external reality, thoughts, feelings, emotions, all from your life experience that come in into you. They hit that mirror, they reflect. And then they bounce back through you. But that's when they get filtered. With your own biases and your own experience that your inner narrative. In the narrator, kind of with everything you've ever experienced before, it will kind of give it its tone or its filter before it comes back out again and what? Is the loudest input, so whatever's coming into you, whatever you hear the loudest.
25:02
Esther Bertram
Is a good thing to use as your source to reflect on to express through art. So this can be positive or negative. So just say you've fallen in love and you're just at the start. You're in a honeymoon phase of a relationship. It's probably going to be very consuming and take over your whole everything because it just feels so amazing. So, but that can also make you giddy and maybe sometimes it's even good to express that out of you, so you're more balanced as well.
25:33
Esther Bertram
Equally negative things, if something externally. It really pisses you off or hurts you or angers you or old pain that keep you ruminate about it. You just keep thinking of this scenario that just drives your head mad, whatever is the loudest signal. That is a really good source to, work with in the process. We're going to go into that comes in, hits that back mirror reflects.
25:59
Esther Bertram
Go through yourself through your biases through the way that you filter it. And he's expressed, and when it's expressed, it can be expressed with or without technical ability. So when you go to the art gallery and you see these masterworks in painting from the old masters, they are technically, absolutely outstanding. But equally you can go to an art gallery and see a pile of rubbish with a chair. And it's considered art. I mean, they probably were paid quite a lot of money to have that pile of rubbish, literal rubbish and a chair in there. Because it's modern art and there isn't any technical ability in that. But that was that person's reflection.
26:49
Esther Bertram
Whatever was happening externally came in through them, hit their back mirror, went through their filters, and it was a meaning for them that they then externally expressed and. They they're both valid in their own way, and I'm not gonna go into what's worth more because it's, you know, it's so subjective art, but I feel like there's two sides to it. One is about the process for the individual doing the reflection and expression, and then it outputs either with a technical ability or no technical ability, but it's still the similar process.
27:27
Esther Bertram
And then there's the effect that output has on others, which is the two in the 1-2-3 But that's a different whole thing, so somebody might be affected by that pile of rubbish and chair, and another person might look at it and go, oh, it's a pile of rubbish, and a chair doesn't do anything to me. Same with the masters. Some people might think oh, it's too technical doesn't have enough feeling in it. It's the same when you listen to some classical singers you might go, Oh yeah, they're technically brilliant, but I don't feel the vibe. So it's all subjective. Once it gets to the external.
28:06
Esther Bertram
Perception from another person observing and are consuming that art and it can be in any form like songs, books, dances, to have this artistic expression and reflection. So that's just a little bit of how I see what art actually is. And hopefully it helps you. Not be too judgmental of yourself about having any technical ability or not, because what we're going to do today is more about the process and. I mean, obviously, if somebody wants to go and study one specific technical ability and art and become a master in it, it's an absolutely outstanding thing to watch and observe. And I was watching a documentary the other day about Japanese sword makers.
29:01
Esther Bertram
And honestly, I'm just blown away by the dedication and. I couldn't stick to just one thing like that. I love meeting and talking to masters of their art or craft or. Because I've just admire that discipline and it's that's a phenomenal outcome. But that's not what we're talking about. Today we're talking more about. Just that process of allowing stimulus to come in listening to this loudest voice. Letting it hit your back mirror to reflect upon that. Putting it through your own filters, you can't help that our own biases are there.
29:43
Esther Bertram
And that's what gives it a beautiful tonality, because that's your perspective, and that's the main thing. And then letting it out of yourself in a creative form. So we're going to go through a bit of a five step process today that could help getting you back into your creative flow state. So step one is choosing your medium so. If you are, if you've done any music before, you might want to choose music or an instrument or painting or drawing or any kind of craft. Or if you like dancing or movement, you might want to choose that. Or even sculpture.
30:24
Esther Bertram
Sculpture is an easy one because you can use anything you don't have to go and buy an instrument you can use things at home. Dancing and sculpture are both things you can do immediately without any. tools. So choose first, choosing a medium, any medium. Second is setting clear intentions, so this will help you if you've accidentally. Didn't use it so you lost it. So those pathways of your creative self maybe currently deactivated and we gotta try to reactivate them first, setting some clear intentions to reactivate them will help.
31:03
Esther Bertram
And that's actually just given me an idea I'm going to do. Podcast 7 The Next podcast on intention setting. Because I learned a lot when I was. Yeah, at university about intentions and I can help if you if you're not used to setting them. I've got some tips that might help anyway, so first you set the intention to release the excess emotions and thoughts that do not serve your highest good.
31:35
Esther Bertram
So I always imagine intentions like a bow and arrow and an Archer setting a clear intention pulling back the bow, focusing on the bullseye with your sharpest intention of that's what you want to achieve. That's when you're aiming for it. And then you have to let go and in that allowance and letting go, that's when the universe and her mysterious ways helps achieve those objectives. When you're able to be really clear and then let go. So for second step is setting those clear intentions.
32:10
Esther Bertram
The third step is what I talked about before is tuning into the feeling. It's almost like becoming a human radio and. Put up your little antenna and see what is the loudest signal you're getting at the moment, and it could be. Anything you ruminate on it could be something in the world. Something that's really upsetting you could be something you're angry about. It could be something really positive you might be in love. Anything that you find yourself thinking and feeling about a lot, and imagine yourself as a radio. And what is the loudest signal coming through? And choose that as your topic of expression.
32:55
Esther Bertram
Often it will be as an empath, somebody else's stuff. If you're a 2-1-3 it's most likely going to be someone else's crap, which is good. It's a good thing to express then, because it is. Letting go of other people's baggage which doesn't actually serve you so find what that is and tune into it. When you tune into it, try to hear it even louder than before, so go fully into the signal of what's coming through. Feel it feel and think into it as loud as you can and try to. It's like you're tuning a radio.
33:29
Esther Bertram
Tune that radio so it's crystal clear coming back and it's going to hit the back mirror of you. When it hits that back mirror, that is when you start reflecting on it from your perspective and. That's when your tonality comes through. This is step four. We then need to choose the tones or the colors or the objects that match the tonality of that signal. So, for example, if somebody's pissing you off at work and it's the same person and you keep ruminating about it, let's call him Frank and Frank is just his behavior is driving you nuts and he actually offloads all his stuff on you every time at lunch break and you just you can't get Frank out of your head.
34:18
Esther Bertram
This he's accidentally tangled you in all of his drama. And it's actually got to the point you're getting angry about it, so you've tuned into it. You've been reminiscing about not, reminiscing, ruminating about all those conversations, and. When you've chosen your medium, just say I'm choosing a song now as my example. I turned into Frank. He's making me actually angry. I'm going to choose a chord and an energy and a strumming style that matches most precisely to that feeling, because that the more I can align the feeling to the reflection that's coming back off the mirror and the tonality of the song, the easier channel it has to kind of escape me and get out of me.
35:08
Esther Bertram
So if I align that really well, it's almost like all that stuff. It's coming. It's been ruminating in my head it's hit the mirror I just channel it out, especially if I can match it. If I was doing Frank in dance form, I'd probably start shaking my limbs and maybe even doing some hardcore death. Metal head banging and. I don't know, but you know what I mean. Hopefully if he was a sculpture. Now that he's made me quite angry every day. I would probably be choosing something jagged and I don't know. I'd go and get a knife from the kitchen and maybe even some fruit and.
35:50
Esther Bertram
Just start chopping. Not that I want i'm not chopping Frank, but I'm chopping all the emotions that I seem to be carrying. You get my point. Match in colours and tones. If it was a painting I might get dark red mixed with purple and sharp lines to let it out equally. If it was positive I'm in the honeymoon phase. I would and I just I'm it's driving me nuts. I can't concentrate on work cause I'm thinking about the person all the time. I want to let it out of my body so I can just go back to my normal work day. I might paint a picture that is just.
36:28
Esther Bertram
The perfect rainbow pastel colours of harmony and joy. And let it out and let it sit in that painting in a safe place. And if you do it really well, even if you don't have technical ability, that feeling will be packaged in that place. That when someone else observes it, they will feel that same, or they will feel a very similar feeling to what you've actually packaged. Step Five is allowing it to flow and don't judge it, and especially if you've closed down those pathways many years ago. You might be very super analytical thinking still with this limiting belief of you're not an artist, try to just ignore that.
37:16
Esther Bertram
Go back to being a 5 year old and exploring with wonder and awe and allowing the flow and just sink into the allowance of you being a radio and experiencing it and being that receiver, letting it mirror and just let it out doesn't matter what it is. No one actually cares when you look at it from the moon. Who cares what it is that comes out even if it's one dot in the middle of a big blank sheet? If that dot best capitulates the feeling that you've been feeling of that thing you want outside of yourself, that dot is the answer.
37:56
Esther Bertram
So just allow it to be that and try not to judge it. That's it, that's the five step process, so choosing a medium with step one. Step two with setting clear intentions. Step Three was tune into the feeling becoming a human radio. Step Four is choose the colors or tones or objects or chords that match that signal. Step Five is allow it to flow and don't judge it. Just sink into that allowance just definitely remember there's no such thing as bad art, and there's art that's done.
38:30
Esther Bertram
Like I said, with more technical ability. But we're not doing this for anyone else but ourselves at the moment. And it's just part of becoming a strong 1-2-3 and offloading those emotions safely. And that's it. If you wanna go more into this so you can really become a thriving dancing 1-2-3 I'm gonna give you 2 takeaways 1 is. The book that I'm currently writing is on pre order the 1-2-3 theory and it goes into various aspects of becoming a thriving empath in life, love and work.
39:07
Esther Bertram
The other thing is purely on creative expression is a beautiful book. I've only read a tiny bit. I've heard about such good positive reviews called the Artists Way and it's a really good way to get back in tune with your inner artist. And if you want to explore. Well, that's a really good thing. You could do because the more that you let that out, the lighter you will feel the less tangled, the less sad the less angry, the less. Emotionally unstable, even from positive emotions. When you're just giddy with.
39:42
Esther Bertram
I mean maybe you wanna keep that and not put it out anywhere, but maybe you want to share it if you're feeling so in love and happy, maybe you want to put it in a package of some sort and share it with the world. You might even want to make a card for the person you love and express it into that and give it to them. The other great thing about creative expression it I believe it. This reflection process really depth lens. Your experience with life because it gives you that space to. Feel things, tune into them and. Allow your contribution to that experience to merge with it and find an outlet and.
40:30
Esther Bertram
Art is just. And creative expression is just phenomenal. Like that it certainly. It enables you to get out of the day-to-day just getting on with life and doing what's expected and enables you to almost go from a side angle or a high perspective angle or a deep angle. To look at reality from this unique spot and when you give yourself that space to do that. It creates a richer in my perspective of richer life experience and. The more value you have from experience, the richer you are as a human. I feel and it helps you feel.
41:14
Esther Bertram
A satisfaction that isn't easily quenched from other areas of life. It's one of the core pillars to me. Back to the five finger theory that it's really important to have optimized as well. And yeah, if we don't do that just I think that carrying all that extra baggage it's not. It's not comfortable, so I urge any of you that feels like you're carrying all this baggage of other peoples might be time to.
41:51
Esther Bertram
Let it go to feel less heavy and transform it. It's a bit like. I see people empaths that are two one threes. They're a bit like. Long haul travellers that have just travelled around the world with really heavy bags that yeah they have no wheels and they're just weighed down compared to. If you're an artist and you're letting out all that stuff, you're much lighter and you just have a little backpack with just a few tools that you need for yourself and you're skipping and your inner explorer and your 5 year old can dance through life.
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Esther Bertram
And it does wonders for nourishing your soul. And it reminds me of this quote there was. Keith Haring he was American pop artist. He said art should be something that liberates your soul. So yeah, getting the flight of wings on your soul to allow it to be free and gain that higher perspective. If you want some more inspiration. Because that's been a massive part of my life. I've made a dedicated sole section of the Inzel, so if you head over to the inzel.com and head over to the Tea House.
43:12
Esther Bertram
That's got a lot of my creative expressions that have helped me feel nurtured. Like I've got my music there. The book November Fox that I wrote. Various children's books and all the creative expressions I've needed to do to let it out of my body that also turned into a career as well. One of the biggest expressions I did was I spent five years writing a book called November Fox.
43:41
Esther Bertram
Sometimes I end these podcasts with the little bit of the audio book from November Fox. And because she's an empath vegan rock star loosely based on a lot of my life experience and lucid dreams, she travels dimensions of consciousness to unlock this teleporting. Well, being cube that represents the five finger theory. It's all about mind, heart, body, sole purpose and facing shadows. I've I released 2 albums under the name November Fox. As part of that book that kind of intertwined with it, and I'm going to play for some time today. One of the songs that I mentioned earlier from November Fox, which is actually me performing it.
44:28
Esther Bertram
I produced with my friend Keeno. He's a producer in Berlin and. Yeah, it's the song in love. Like I said, I just had left this narcissistic relationship in my twenties and. There was this situation with a character and. I was I said character because actually there are character in November Fox as well. It's everything intertwines has one creative output from my. Spaghetti brain, but there was a person in my life at the time. I was very close with, had a very deep connection, with and I think it was because.
45:10
Esther Bertram
I was just I was 2-1-3 putting others before my own needs but it just got out of that situation and decided I need to become a 1-2-3 I wasn't yet one but I was aware I needed to be one. And he was also a 2-1-3 So. 2 toos and. Before 1-2-3 it it's very it can go very deep. And I think we were both aware of the danger of that actually, and it was a bit scary and. It's we just tiptoed round the edge of it. And when I wrote this song, it was almost like.
45:56
Esther Bertram
I needed to place the emotions somewhere safe, almost as a safety mechanism, not to. End up in a dynamic that was not going to be conducive to my bigger mission, which was to become a thriving 1-2-3 which. Was more important because I really cared about. Having a higher output and I knew that if it's meant to be, it'll be there at the right time anyway, so it was. Allowing it to be what it was and allowing it to form at the right time. If it was meant to be. So I'm going to play in love from November Fox, also known as Esther Bertram.
46:40
Esther Bertram
And you know it's a song about. Trying to see the writing on the wall in time before falling, falling down. The will of love. I'm holding back again. You take me. I'll hold on again. You wake me. I'm giving you space. You break me. I'll give them. You can think. Just take me. Hoping i can see the place. Just take. You break me. You're holding back as your fault anyway anyway.
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Esther Bertram
Don't forsake me, make me. Let him go to home again. Mistake make me. You in space. Ok. You'll give them. One is you. In resonate me. I can see the right. I can see the place. Just take. You break me. Just take. You don't break me. Ok, that was in love from November Fox. My album in my dreams. If you'd like to hear more of my music, head over to. theinzel.com in the Tea House section of the island, there are all my creative expressions, so the book November Fox and music and stuff like that or at estherbertram.com dot AU. And that with that said, I'm going to wrap up today's podcast.
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Esther Bertram
I'm would love to hear any stories of you getting on your creative path again. If this has brought you value, I really hope it has sparked even a tiny little spark of inspiration to. Get those pathways of creative reflection and expression going again because. If it even does a little bit towards making you feel lighter, that that's really fantastic. I know that music and painting and video making and art and book writing for me has just served my soul so well, that yeah, I hope to hear any positive stories of creative expression helping you as well and just want to thank you for listening.
53:28
Esther Bertram
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Esther Bertram
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Esther Bertram
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Esther Bertram
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Esther Bertram
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