Podcast Episode 20 - Empath Unplugged with Esther Bertram
Why Empaths and Narcissists Are Attracted to Each Other?
In this episode of Empath Unplugged, Esther Bertram discusses why empaths and narcissists are attracted to each other. She explains that both types of people are seeking a deep, intimate connection and that the attraction is often based on a deep-rooted need for validation and approval. However, the relationship between an empath and a narcissist is often tumultuous and can eventually lead to the empath feeling used, manipulated, and even abused. If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, or if you think you might be, or want to prevent it, this episode is a must-listen!
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Welcome to Empath Unplugged, a frequent release podcast of RAW and philosophical reflections on wellbeing, love and the meaning of life, brought to you by your host, Esther Bertram, founder of the Inzel, a rejuvenation island and community for empaths, expect topics such as philosophy, psychology, art, culture, spirit, science, holistic health, and the occasional beach fire song to be part of your wonder ride to your Oceanside escape. It's time to breathe in the salty air and bask in the soothing warm sun to relax, reflect and vibe, along with a fellow empath to rejuvenate.
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As most episodes refer to my 1-2-3 theory, I will provide an overview of it here. For new listeners, feel free to skip ahead 4 minutes if you know it already. In my twenties I created 2 interlocking theories as I needed a framework for three reasons. One, to know how to optimise my holistic wellbeing, to to have mutually beneficial relationships and letting go of toxic relationships and tangle nations with narcissists. 3 to have lots of time and energy to give in to my positive impact businesses and contribute to the world in a meaningful way. I've now spent two decades putting the theories into practice.
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And they work, hence me now sharing them with the world. The 1-2-3 theory is a way to assess if you are optimised and able to give the most amount of love and energy to the world for the longest sustained time. The five fingered theory explores each domain of holistic health and works in conjunction with the 1-2-3 theory and helps you calibrate each department to have maximum output in your life. The 1-2-3 theory states you need to be in the order of the one.
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2-3-1 is yourself. Two are your loved ones. Three is the rest of the world or your contribution. When you nurture your holistic wellbeing first one, then you are better able to have mutually beneficial relationships too. And as a byproduct of this combination, you have so much excess energy to give three your contribution to the world. This order of the 1-2-3 ensures maximum output in all departments for the longest duration. Some people are three, two ones or three one twos, putting their cause, business or mission before anything else.
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This isn't sustainable long term if you value health and relationships. Many empaths like I was in the past have the default setting of being a 2-1-3 giving to others before themselves, but that blocks their flow into their three and as a consequence they have little time and energy for their contribution. It's particularly dangerous to be a 2-1-3 when you are together with or around a narcissist as they are double one two threes or double one three twos where they put themselves first twice in an energy vamping way when an empath has it too at the start giving to others first.
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This fits like a jigsaw into the narcissist double one. This bond is notoriously risky for empaths and often hard to break, so I'm on a mission to help. Empaths become strong one two threes. Or would I like to call super empaths so they can thrive in life, love and work and not get caught wasting years of their precious life in tangle nations. This podcast, the empath community I have built, and my book the 1-2-3 theory are all part of achieving this mission. To dive deeper into both theories, head over to the 1-2-3 theory.com where you can read or listen to my book. Now that you have the basic gist of the 1-2-3 theory, let's begin this podcast.
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Hello listeners, welcome to podcast episode 20. It's a nice milestone to arrive at, and it happens to be my very good friend narrator's birthday today, so I'm going to wish you a biggest happy birthday narrator. If you hear this podcast, I hope you have a beautiful day. I'll be seeing you in a few weeks to celebrate in person. Okay, today's episode is why empaths and narcissists are attracted to each other and I got the idea of doing this topic after a tick tock I made this week and thought it is something that's easily able to be dove into deeper. And actually, the whole reason I've been making tick tocks and doing this podcast is really to help empaths.
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Bypass needing to spend too much time in dynamics that are not conducive to their holistic health, too much time letting their sensitivities be setbacks and trying to expedite their achievement of becoming a super empath. So this is a topic that is really important to really look at and especially if. You are not in a relationship at the moment, but you're looking to start a connection with somebody. This episode is more of a preventative episode rather than what to do if you're already in that dynamic, and although I'll cover a little bit about that as well.
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So I think that when we understand the attraction, it can help you flag it before it occurs and know what kind of. Action you can take to prevent it to be in that tangle nation. And yeah, that's what we're going to try to go into today and when it lays out on my 1-2-3 theory. When you look at a narcissist configuration, to me that's a double one two three. So they have themselves, themselves again, and then the rest of the world. Sometimes they're double one three twos as well and. When we're not yet a super empath, the default setting is often an empath is a 2-1-3 and that's when we put others needs before our own wellbeing and we often have not much left over for the rest of the world.
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And an empath 2-1-3 having a two at the front where it's giving in to others fits like a jigsaw into a double one two three a, narcissist's very self centered. Very self important world and it just is giving that into that receiving and it can lock in. But we're going to detangle today how that attraction occurs and what keeps you in there longer than you need to be so. Yeah, it's quite a heavy topic in a way and but it is an extremely important topic, yeah. So let's have a bit of a look at the narcissist, what they what they're like on their own. By the way, you might hear Frank, my doggy boyfriend, walking around, or he keeps barking at a bird that keeps coming in to try to take his food.
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So I'll just don't mind. Don't mind the doggy noises if they come in. So let's have a look at narcissists. Narcissists do get a bad rap. They are selfish and they do lack empathy. And this comes down to their inflated sense of self. And they often fall into two camps. One is the covert, one is the overt. So an overt narcissist tend to have really high self esteem. They're outgoing, they're confident, very charismatic, and that's a very attractive quality for an empath covert narcissist. Often have low self esteem. They're more self-conscious they like playing the victim, and they draw people in to their world because of the need to for them to be rescued and cared about.
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They're also very prone to narcissistic rage, so they can flip and change more readily actually than an overt narcissist. Overt narcissist tends to be more emotionally stable because they're more outward. All the time anyway. So in either situation, both of them have an inflated sense of self and they feel they're more important than others and they feel justified in their actions to serve their agendas. And yeah, that's that's very dangerous for an empath they love like.
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So the attraction starts with them really loving empaths because especially 2-1-3 empaths, they can see us from a mile way and they see us as a potential energy and admiration source because it's common that we can stroke their ego and be submissive to their agendas. And for them that's a very attractive thing and they will just flock like moths to a flame. To 2-1-3 empaths.
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But as impulse we need to take a bit of responsibility and. Try to change our internal configuration so we're no longer attractive to them. That's one preventative thing we can do and the best way of doing that is becoming a strong 1-2-3 It's like once we do that where we have an invisible cloak around us because a double one two three is not going to be attracted to a 1-2-3 because it doesn't serve their agenda. They need to one three. So they'll be out on the prey for that so.
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Us taking responsibility for not entering such a thing is doing self-care and becoming a super empath. We end up entering relationships with narcissists because we end up attracted to their false self that they project because it is super believable. They are masters at that and they're able to activate that when it's necessary to hook in the people they want. That will serve their mission and. Initially that can make us feel as an empath pretty much on Cloud 9 because when they're at the beginning they show their very best side and but that's very short lived.
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Later we end up trapped and drained and we even lose our sense of self and they chip away at our self esteem rather than boosting us up and they end up gaslighting us and rather than praising. Our intellect and they also go hot and cold, and we're going to jump into all of these things in depth in this podcast, but that's a quick outline. And the range of the dynamics that can occur range from a very unhealthy dynamic with an empathic narcissist all the way to massively abusive so.
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It's important to look at the common traits and reasons behind the attraction just to. Prevent any you. You wouldn't want to be on any of the spectrum with a narcissist because it's very detrimental to an impasse health. So I'd much rather see empaths using their kind giving hearts to. Help and connect and be around people who truly respect them and love them and cherish them, because empaths deserve to be cherished so much and. Yeah, so this podcast is going to aim to give you some warning signs and explain that attraction and.
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My history in knowing about this subject is when I was in my twenties. I've had have had a few relationships with narcissists. It's very common thing for empaths. So in my twenties, particularly very strong two one three. That's when my theories were born. I needed to get free from a relationship and have parameters in place to protect me for the future. And I was with one of these relationships it really did my head in. It was very. Yeah, it followed the cliche tactics and behaviours that I'm gonna outline that happens and.
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In retrospect, I shouldn't have let it last the few years that it did. And I I waited for a true crisis point to end it, to get free. And that's what it feels like it's like. You need to get free. I felt fully like a caged bird, which is, yeah, terrible. No birds should be in a cage. No human should be in such a. Psychological complication. That becomes abusive on multiple dimensions. Anyway, I got free and I created my theories and I've put my theories into practice and I'm in a very happy, healthy space Now, so I'm happy I can share my experience with you to hopefully help you.
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So let's break it down. Like most stories, a relationship with a narcissist has a beginning, a middle and an end. But quite more often than not, they're usually a toxic attraction destined for disaster. So best to be avoided. And this is what it can look like. At the beginning. It's very common for love bombing to occur and if you don't know what love bombing is, it's when the narcissist shows there's very best side and they fulfill this false self of being the person of your dreams.
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They display amazing affection. They basically do everything you could imagine. Adrian, Absolute dream partner. Would do and they shower you with love and it is a massive hook that's that's how they hook you in and the tricky thing is. We've a lot of people in the Western world have grown up with Hollywood. It falls into this Hollywood dream and if you're an optimist, especially if you're an optimist, you can experience some of this and just think it's finally happening. To me it just how it does on the movies and it can be so hard to tell the difference between that and something that is actually real. But you'll notice if it comes on really fast and it's almost too good to be true, there's something in there.
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It's like if you're looking at two different artwork ones, the original one is a. And counterfeit. Something your guts know you. Something within you knows it's not right. But it's hard to put your finger on. So this can happen at the beginning and for an empath. That attraction is because we love, love. We love the charisma and the confidence of a person that comes in and displays that love, and it comes across as their authentic self.
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And often this is because as empaths, we live in this watery world of emotion, the ocean of emotion. We're so used to taking on other people's emotions as if it's ours. It pushes us up and down and round and round and when somebody comes. The cross that is sure of themselves and open with their emotions and displaying their emotions with actions it it blows us away and. We know that that's actually possible in life, but we choose to just believe that and it becomes. It puts us yeah, it makes life. So amazing and and we end up getting a lot of endorphins in and that addicts us to the amazing feeling.
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So chemically, we're hooked. We're hooked in this reality. Because it's not just a concept. It's not just our head and our heart. It's our chemistry. Really into the feeling. And yeah, that's when the beginning, that's the beginning of the hook. So you've got the 1-1-2-3 locked into the 2-1-3 the double one and the two are just like in and they go lock and key yeah and as a 2-1-3 when you're an empath at that point. We love feeling needed and kind of validated for being the giver that we are because we know we're giving and kind and a narcissist admires us and praises us for being such a kind and wonderful, beautiful person.
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And we know that deep within us we are that, but then when they're externally mirroring us back to us, yeah, we believe it because we know it ourselves, but. We we feel a kind of a new validation from an external source and that's extremely attractive. And yeah, the double one two three the, narcissist feels extremely happy at the beginning because they've found someone. Who idolises them and strokes their ego and is a kind of submissive to their Rockstar. I really see it like a Rockstar and a groupie.
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The narcissists on the stage with the limelight on and they are the centre of the universe and empaths can often be like a groupie, kind of stroking their legs and bowing down to them going, yeah, you're so amazing. And when Annette, when a narcissist feels that. For them, they know that in the future they're going to be able to control that person because of the. Submission that happens at the start. And yeah, although they won't show that at the beginning. That's why they recognise A213 and they look down actually at a 2-1-3 they're up high on their stage and they look down to you.
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Anyway, that's how it begins. The attraction is there and it's locked in. During the middle, this is the most tangly part of a dynamic of the attraction of the narcissist and empath. The mask starts to come off the narcissist. And as an empath, we start seeing and experiencing all the true narcissistic tendencies. But by then it's too late. We're fully invested. It was too good to be true at this start and we don't want to let go of that. The narcissist will at this point start playing head games and. They are usually very full of contempt and as I said before, they look down on people like they are the ones that are more important than anyone else.
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They sit there having inflated sense of self and everyone else is below them. And once they start seeing your flaws, cause everybody's got flaws. They start to blame you for not being perfect and. This begins this push pull games and. The first signs of this, when the mask comes off is when we, as the empaths kick into rescue mode and we love rescuing and we love loving and giving and empathising and crossing the bridge of empathy into other people's emotional islands because we have this fundamental belief often that we can fix people and heal anything with.
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Our compassion and love. And this is a dangerous belief and this is we have to take responsibility for having that belief system because that we trap ourselves there. Then we cannot blame the narcissist at this point. We can just look at behaviours and see why and how this dynamic happens, but we need to take responsibility for our part, and our part is having a belief system. That our compassion and love will be the remedy and get the narcissist back to the potential we saw in them at the start. We saw them shining their best self, we saw them being an amazing partner.
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We saw them just being phenomenal. And we have a belief and a wish and a rescue mode. That we think that if we just love them enough, we're compassion enough. We empathise with them. We see their flaws. But we forgive them for their flaws. We'll just hold a space for them so they can come back to that beautiful potential that they have. And we live in this world of yes, but the potential we then go future minded.
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So we put up with crap right now. Because we think once we're through the healing process and I've held the space long enough and I've been there as the rock for them. They'll come back to their wonderful, beautiful self. But this is often, sadly not the case and it they may not ever get there and we can spend years in this. Mental construct of wanting to be the rescuer, and it can last an incredibly crazy amount of time.
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And it's just this wanting to fix that keeps the attraction in the middle section of this. That's one core part. There's there's a few other parts actually, but from our side we need to take responsibility for that and not try to. Just fix. We need to look for mutually beneficial relationships if if it's not mutually beneficial. Then it's not good for our growth ultimately cause we're just going to feed in, give, give, give, give and we'll end up burnt out, exhausted and sometimes even hardcore abused and that's not good for anybody but. It gets even more. Tangley and solidifies this. Connection between the two when the relationship starts having what's called intermittent reinforcement through trauma bonding and.
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This is a form of psychological abuse, and it's used by abusers to keep victims hooked into relationships. And it's something to be very wary of. And how it works is the abuser alternates between periods of extreme cruelty. And moments of kindness. So you've got chunks of time and little moments. And they might start by it can be as bad as hitting you everyday or even yelling at you everyday and then give you a few days of peace and quiet and then they lash out again.
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And then they offer you some small token like of love, like a gift or a hug or. Something and they alternate this pattern over months or years and it creates a system, a situation where. And we feel compelled to continue playing the game because it feels safe, it creates a pattern and it is a very addictive dynamic. And as the empath, we're kind of in there hoping that the next moment of kindness will lead to. More calmness and. Yeah, but the truth of it is that no matter how much.
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The abuser loves you. They don't actually really care. So true love is in actions. So you can people can say they love you, but if they're not actually acting, loving and caring about you, it's not a real love. And their goal often is not to make you happy, it's to control you and. The longer we stick around in there. The more power they end up having and it's just like a drug addiction and within that parameter we can feel this sense of safety and this is, this is the the real depth of my definition of tangled nation.
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It's very. Yeah, it's, it's it's a very hard situation to be in and. I highly recommend if you're in something like that to. Start putting some support networks in place to get free from it, cause nobody should be. In such a toxic bond like that, it's just really sad and. And yeah, you need to look for support to get out of such a thing if you are in a in a bond like that. And yeah, there are a few more elements that keep you keep us as empaths attracted in the midsection of a relationship with a narcissist. And another one is looking at our responsibility again is gratitude.
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We are notorious at setting a low bar for people could because of our empathy and we're so giving and understanding and we forgive people for their flaws and we just always have reasons why they must be like that because we're able to feel it from their perspective. And we look for the good in people, we're so good at that. And we have this selective evidence because. Every every partner is able to do some good, even abusers do some good. And one thing we're prone to is just looking for those little moments of good in amongst all the drama. And we feel grateful for the small things.
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But that fully keeps our blinkers on to the full extent of the dynamic of what's going on. So that self selective evidence mechanism of gratitude. It's he's actually detrimental to us when we're in a dynamic with a narcissist. And often it's a strategy we've learned as a child. If we've been in any kind of abusive situation or traumatic situation, we've we've one survival mechanism is looking towards the good and making a world that is safe and predictable within our own mind.
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And we're good at Blinkering out things that, you know, hold us from our happy place. But we have to be very careful when we do that in a relationship because we might not see we selectively block out the things that are actually not doing great for us. Another thing is altruism. So research has shown that some people stay in unhappy relationships longer than they should because of this.
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And that's if we believe our partner is putting an effort into the relationship. We can often try to reciprocate, but with a narcissist. It can be really hard to figure out when they stop trying, because they're extremely good at exaggerating their good points. And they don't even believe, they refuse to believe that they have any bad ones. They live in their Rockstar on the shining light of perfection, reality. And yeah, they don't really react that well to criticism because it doesn't fit in their reality. And that can be really confusing as an empath because we can often blame ourselves for problems and. Yeah, not even realise that that dynamics toxic.
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And the biggest? Well, no, maybe not the biggest, but very, very common thing in the mid part of a relationship with a narcissist. Is gaslighting and this is when the narcissist will start twisting reality of the empath and making us doubt ourselves and our facts and basically rewriting scripts of reality that. Manipulate our brain to feel less and lower ourself worth and doubt ourselves and shrink us down. It's it. It's very. It's very manipulative and it's very toxic, absolutely. And this kind of psychological abuse. Is just as damaging as physical abuse and it, but it's harder to identify because.
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There aren't physical scars on your body and. And the unfortunate situation is manipulative. People are aware of this and they use it to their advantage. And they'll often they know that if they were to be physically violent, you would probably walk away because your head clicks ohh. I've been hit. I shouldn't be in it. I should go. So if they know that they can abuse and control you in every other way up until that physical point. Because they know that in your head you consider abuse to be physical.
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And yeah, it's a it's a another way to exert their control and. It's it's extremely it's extremely dangerous for an empath because it can keep you. In in in a dynamic like that for a long long time so. And it can also weaken your ability to feel like you can leave, because they will. Undermine you and pull you down. And often they'll also get between you and your friendships and even family members, and kind of cut away your support networks because they know that the less support you have, the less likely you are to make a change away from them.
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If you if any of this sounds familiar, I I really urge you to start building up support networks around I I had to do this in my twenties. There are a couple of situations where. This thing happened and I needed to reach out to a new friend that I'd made that was outside of a circle. It was just a friend and I had to kind of hide the friendship because I knew the partner would not approve of me having a male friend.
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And but that actually enabled me to get the strength I needed and the support I needed to get free from that relationship. And yeah, so you can also go to. Therapists are very good at helping you build that strength as well and yeah so finally the last thing that can keep you. Attracted or inner dynamic with a narcissist for an extended period. Is the past coming to haunt us again? So it's it's the repetitive behaviour. It's continuing the dance. When you as a child, we need to mirror it back to as a kind of healing in a way. So if you've grown up with healthy relationships and relatively few traumatic events, you'll quite often have healthy attachments that styles.
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But if you've had. Not great positive experiences with relationships or kind of kinds of trauma you are more at risk of having. Unhealthy attachments because they're more likely to engage you in this repetitive behaviour which is familiar. It's like a dance. The dance steps that you learnt, you continue on and. Often you you'll repeat them because they're the things that you knew from your traumatic experience, and then if you relive them again, it's a kind of healing that goes on. And but it isn't healthy. So it may be for a certain period, but once you get awareness of that and see the roots of that, you can do other ways to heal that without being actually in that relationship.
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Because you can you can see a therapist, you can start detangling it like that and do a lot of self nurturing following the five finger theory, mind, heart, body, soul, purpose, all other versions of healing that past trauma rather than just. Continuing the dance that you knew from before. Because often it's you end up in that sub. It's not a conscious choice. You don't go out in the world and go hmm, I'm going to find a relationship just like I went through often.
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You're you're way deep into it before this. You even done that. That could be way how it happened or even you look at it in retrospect and realise then. I know that certainly happened to me before. Anyway, let's now look at the end of a tangle nation with a narcissist. When you when you do try to end or when you do end, not try to, but when you're in the process of ending a relationship with a narcissist. They can react in various ways depending on their character, so some of them will. Do everything possible to try to get you to take them back, and some of them may move on.
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Eerily quickly, which is another whole kind of manipulation in a way. So if they if they do, the method of trying to get you back. And I know that this one that I was talking about, they tried for at least one year. I had relentless phone calls with the longest voice messages. And I mean everything under the sun was tried. To be honest. It was very, very. You have to really have support networks in place to keep you from going back in there so they can try techniques like bargaining, like give me one more chance, I'll do everything. I'll make these changes and they'll bargain, bargain, bargain and yeah, that's one thing they'll do.
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Another thing they can do is blame game, very common, where they'll blame you for everything, which is another version of lowering your self worth and self esteem and gaslighting you. That it was all your fault and you kind of guilt you back into having another chance. Another thing they try, they can do a full circle and go back to love bombing, which is how it all began in the 1st place, and just hope that the second time round you'll fall for the illusion again of the false self and they'll shower you with everything and. Try to reengage like that. And another thing they sometimes do is starting a smear campaign. And really start putting out bad promotion to friends, circles, even business professional circles.
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That's happened to me before when a person was not happy that I did not want to be in a relationship with them anymore because it was detrimental to my health. And yeah, they did a smear campaign. Not very nice. I've actually had all four happen. The bargaining blame games, love bombing smear campaigns, and yeah it's. It's pretty hard to resist, but you need to just be prepared for it and stick to your plan and keep reminding yourself that. Things will always return to the status quo if you end up going back there. So yeah, surround yourself with really good friends. Go see a therapist, have have really strong support networks in place, even write a letter to yourself reminding yourself that no matter what they try, you will nearly always end up back where you are.
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So yeah, that's my advice there. And another thing you can do if you've never been in a relationship with a narcissist, but you know you're an empath. I highly, highly, highly recommend learning everything about narcissists and start reading books about narcissists because it's just a matter of time, especially if you're a 2-1-3 before you'll come across them either at work or in friendships or in relationships. And the more you understand them and how they work and their tactics and what ends up what to look for, like the red flags.
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The more you'll be able to protect yourself. It's almost like empath, self-care hygiene. What we have to do is learning, learning what this kryptonite is. And a kryptonite for an empath is certainly a narcissist. So if you wanna avoid being in at angulation like this for many years of your life. And especially if you end up having children with them, which cough often happens and you you have to stay even longer for the sake of the children if you want to avoid all that.
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Yeah, read everything you can about narcissists and yeah, steer clear of them. Because when you're a super empath, if you're on your empath quest to become a super empath. We don't actually need to engage with them to get to super empathy them. They're just going to extend that quest a bit longer, take us to more scary woods and more scary caves to battle on our quest, and yeah, as I said before, when when you become a 1-2-3 You become invisible to a double one two three.
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It's like a protective shield. And yeah, it's highly, highly recommended to do that and. Yeah, just be on the be on the alert mode. If you have new partnerships starting. My advice is take it slowly. And try to notice there's two. Imagine like a painting. You've got a true master painting, and then you've got a fake one next to it. Your guts will know if it's a fake. So trust in that. And take it slowly with them, cause narcissist and mate might not have the patience to go slowly because they just want their. They want their source and if their energy source, so they might fall away anyway if you take it slow.
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Anyway, I'm gonna end with some time today and it's a song I wrote. About the beautiful phase, the love bombing phase. I was in a. Relationship where yeah, I experienced that magical feeling of being in a. The start of her relationship and. Although looking back at it, this was a phase of love bombing and it felt like. I even talked about the five finger theory then cause I felt like ohh. I found the person and my 5 fingers combined and mined her body sole purpose. Everything was perfect. Like straight off the bat. It was just like too good to be true and yeah, I fell for I fell for the illusion, the fake self.
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It's so easily done, especially as the optimistic romantic I am. I ended up writing a song about it called Mango love. So I'm gonna play you this as a. Reminder to look for the real mango love, because the real mango love is nourishing. Mangoes are beautifully. Nourishing fruit, but don't be fooled by the fake ones. Look for the real ones. This is mango love from my album called Mango Love. As you fill my heart. I remember who I am. And so you fill my heart with mango ohh watching dreams fade into him.
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It's like taking a remote control ohh watch advanced and frame by frame. And Richard is mine. All five fingers combine. Maybe it's more. Now we can dance this perfect time. You can see me, I say you and stay. Can me, please? That's you'll fill my heart with mango ohh. I remember who I am. And then is like taking a big holiday. I won't. All my life I could live here. And you? my and. All of my fingers combined, baby, it's more than we can dance this perfect time.
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You can see me, I say you. Is taking me away. Thank you, Helen. You've been gone very long. Never remember. I'll do Oscar. How can I give to you my everything without a second thought? Yes, cause it's you my little. It's because it's you. My love angle. That was my song mango love. If you'd like to listen to more of my music, head over to empathunplugs.com That's it for this week, my beautiful, lovely empaths.
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I love you all and I'm sending you true mango love from me to you, wishing you a glorious week, and I look forward to chatting with you. Next week, bye bye. You've been listening to Empath Unplugged, a frequent release podcast of RAW and philosophical reflections on wellbeing, love, and the meaning of life, brought to you by your host, Esther Bertram, founder of the Insel, a rejuvenation island and community for empaths.
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