Podcast Episode 19 - Empath Unplugged with Esther Bertram
10 Ways Empaths Can Access Joy
In this episode of the Empath Unplugged podcast, Esther Bertram shares 10 ways that empaths can access joy. As an empath, it can be easy to get bogged down in the negative emotions of others and the world around us, and say yes to things all too often. However, joy is always available to us if we know where to look for it. In this episode, Esther shares 10 specific ways that empaths can access joy in their lives. These tips are designed to help you find joy in the midst of challenging circumstances and to cultivate a more positive outlook on life. If you’re an empath struggling to find joy in your life, this episode is for you. Tune in now and learn how to access the joy that is your birthright, and be a sustainable wellspring of energy for yourself, loved ones and the world.
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Welcome to Empath Unplugged, a frequent release podcast of RAW and philosophical reflections on wellbeing, love and the meaning of life, brought to you by your host, Esther Bertram, founder of the Inzel, a rejuvenation island and community for empaths, expect topics such as philosophy, psychology, art, culture, spirit, science, holistic health, and the occasional beach fire song to be part of your wonder ride to your Oceanside escape. It's time to breathe in the salty air and bask in the soothing warm sun to relax, reflect and vibe, along with a fellow empath to rejuvenate.
00:42
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As most episodes refer to my 1-2-3 theory, I will provide an overview of it here. For new listeners, feel free to skip ahead 4 minutes if you know it already. In my twenties I created 2 interlocking theories as I needed a framework for three reasons. One, to know how to optimize my holistic wellbeing, to to have mutually beneficial relationships and letting go of toxic relationships and tangle nations with narcissists. 3 to have lots of time and energy to give in to my positive impact businesses and contribute to the world in a meaningful way. I've now spent two decades putting the theories into practice. And they work, hence me now sharing them with the world. The 1-2-3 theory is a way to assess if you are optimised and able to give the most amount of love and energy to the world for the longest sustained time.
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The five fingered theory explores each domain of holistic health and works in conjunction with the 1-2-3 theory and helps you calibrate each department to have maximum output in your life. The 1-2-3 theory states you need to be in the order of the one. 2-3-1 is yourself. Two are your loved ones. Three is the rest of the world or your contribution. When you nurture your holistic wellbeing first one, then you are better able to have mutually beneficial relationships too. And as a byproduct of this combination, you have so much excess energy to give three your contribution to the world. This order of the 1-2-3 ensures maximum output in all departments for the longest duration.
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Some people are three two ones or three one twos putting their cores business or mission. Before anything else, this isn't sustainable long term if you value health and relationships. Many empaths like I was in the past have the default setting of being a 2-1-3 giving to others before themselves, but that blocks their flow into their three and as a consequence they have little time and energy for their contribution.
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It's particularly dangerous to be a 2-1-3 when you are together with or around a narcissist. As they are double one two threes or double one three twos where they put themselves first twice in an energy vamping way when an empath has it too at the start giving to others first, this fits like a jigsaw into the narcissist double one. This bond is notoriously risky for empaths and often hard to break, so I'm on a mission to help empaths become strong one two threes or would I like to call super empaths so they can thrive? In life, love and work and not get caught wasting years of their precious life in tangled nations.
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This podcast, the empath community I have built, and my book the 1-2-3 theory are all part of achieving this mission. To dive deeper into both theories, head over to the 1-2-3 theory.com where you can read or listen to my book. Now that you have the basic gist of the 1-2-3 theory, let's begin this podcast. Hello listeners, welcome to podcast episode number nineteen ten Ways Empaths can access their joy. Now I'll just say up front I'm going to apologise for any extra noises.
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I'm sitting right now in a place I've never beamed in from, and that is my land that I've bought on my little island. Here I bought 3 blocks of land that have amalgamated. Over to my left there is my castle. It's a half finished House of cement and. Uh yeah, very strong looking walls. Um waiting for its roof that will be arriving in the next couple of weeks. And in front of Maine is the big block lined with palm trees where I plan to build the insoles wellbeing event and special garden and Airbnb retreat centre.
05:09
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And I'm beaming in from here because I'm back on the island and the rental I'm in is very tiny and but what what's going to happen is because I'm really exposed here, just on the land. There may be. I saw the Council people with their big mowers and there's going to be trucks. They're doing their normal gardening things around the island and not trucks like Utes. And they'll probably be birds and all kinds of noises.
05:39
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So I'll just say up front, I apologise for that. And there goes a curlew just running past me right now, wondering why I'm sitting here talking to myself. Very lovely Carly. Um, but in a way, it's a perfect place for me to do this episode, because this manifestation of me sitting on these blocks is a product of me living a life of following my own joy now somehow this manifested far faster than I planned. I wasn't going to do buying and building for quite a few more years, although I've been intending it for the last years in my.
06:21
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Manifesting way. It's happening faster than I expected, the building is happening slower than I expect, but the fact of the whole existence of it is a product of many, many years of. Trying to follow my own inner passion and joy, following my intuition, being open to the universe, and feeling into what is the next step towards achieving my ideal reality and my potential. Implementing my five finger theory and the 1-2-3 theory and a byproduct of this work.
07:04
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This inner work I believe is an external. Manifestation of where I'm sitting right now and. Appropriately, it's a work in progress because I think you never really arrive. It's just an ongoing unfolding. So in that way it's although over. The noises here may be the perfect place to do this episode. From my perspective, joy is really at the heart of what it means to have a life well lived, and it's really sad to see so many people not skipping along like 5 year olds. And pure joy, because there are so many reasons. I think we could be living like that.
07:50
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But we do have a lot of obstacles in our way to access that joy. And I use the word access intentionally. That's why the name of this episode is how we can access it, because I think that in all of us, in our core, that joy is already there. And it's less about finding joy externally through something we chase. A bit more about how we can reveal it from within. Taking the onion layers back. Ohh cutting down that wall that has prevented you from living within your joy. And I think we empaths, we're just, we're experts in making other people happy, bringing joy to other people. And I've been thinking a lot this week about the dynamic between masters and apprentices.
08:42
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And from my perspective, many 2-1 threes are apprentices when it comes to time invest for self-care We all seem to understand what it is, what we need to do, what we should be doing, but giving ourselves the permission to do that is what we really struggle with. And why? Why is that? Why are we always preventing ourselves from allowing ourselves to have that? And it's because although we're apprentices at that, we are masters of something else. And these two words came to me so strongly this week.
09:23
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We are master accommodate ears. Now then, when I thought of these words and realising that's what we are, we're truly great at that. That's that's where we shine actually, and that's also our downfall. And if I imagined an empath as a building, I see us like a hotel. And we've got lots of rooms. People come and go and we accommodate, we accommodate, we accommodate. We're, we're fantastic at being accommodations. And if I then think about what a narcissist would be if they were a building, they would be more like a really tall and less useful in a way giant statue that just wants to be admired and doesn't provide any shelter or comfort really but they all have a place in the world.
10:19
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Maybe the hotel looks onto that statue and they're across the street from each other. And, you know, all buildings have reasons and purposes. So I'm not judging 1 better than the other. They're just we are, we have differences. But when we look at us as empaths and we think about. Our struggle with self-care I see it like it's time. The time has come. Here comes the mower. By the way, I hope it's not too disturbing. The time has come to close the hotel for renovations, which we know hotels often do, and it's time for us to upgrade and I think we need to work on our masters quarters at the back of the hotel.
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Where our wellspring energy comes from? Because when we tap into our wellspring. We can open our doors and it's no longer a matter of needing to have boundaries or having to be grounded because we're flowing from a deep wellspring. I've been looking at this week Japanese bathhouses. They're called CentOS, or actually the. The Hot spring versions are called an onsen and. I feel like to become a really strong 1-2-3 It's like we go into our onsen and we find the source. Our own hot spring, we all have it somewhere. Where is it located? What does it come from? At the path to becoming A123 is finding that source.
12:01
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Accessing it and allowing it to flow forth and be abundant. Then and we can open our business again, we can open the hotel doors. And that's what this episode today is going to be about. Some techniques to access that beautiful wellspring which we all have within us. We already have it, now it's about revealing it. But before we do that, I need a little segue into a semantic situation.
12:34
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Is it called semantics? I don't even know if I'm using that correctly. My mum's a English teacher and she and I had a discussion this week. About my use of the word and creation of the word tangled nations because I made that up a while ago and. To me. I created it purely about the specific situation, which is an empath in a dynamic that's not conducive to their highest good or health.
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Often with a narcissist or any kind of dynamic where they're just where we just feel like we're getting used as a door mat and we're tangled and it's very hard to get out of because. We have old patterns holding us there. We have potentially self worth situations holding us there. We have our own ego identification with form of being the giver and the rescuer and the helper and the loving kind person holding us in there. There's so many things and we get tangled for a long time and. I use the word tango flation not really consciously because I know the real word. As Mum pointed out, it's entanglement.
13:53
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And but. I don't know much about quantum physics, but I remember reading I I am interested in it and I have read some stuff about it and the word entanglement to me is very connected to quantum entanglement. When particles, even though when they're separate, separated, a really long way away, they have a connection and it's called quantum entanglement. And I see that as a positive, almost magical, mystical, amazing thing. And so I think I needed a new word to.
14:25
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Specifically talk about empaths in tangle nations and I argued with mum or debated with mum. I should say that as a songwriter and author I'm I'm using my creative license to just make up words and to me I really see it like spaghetti. I see things in pictures. So when I see a tangle nation, it's just this spaghetti mess and mum pointed out. Well, maybe you did it because tangle nations like strangulation. I thought that's actually really clever. I I would agree it is. It's like a strangulation.
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If you think about plants that grow overtime and a vine might go around the trunk of a tree and strangle it, that's how empaths can end up. In relationships for a long time, or how a Python ends up eating its prey through the tangled nation strangulation. And then I thought about it even more after the conversation with Mum kept thinking about this concept and broke down the word again. With strangulation it's like a strange elation and there is something magnetic sometimes when you start a tangled nation. You do get a strange elation from the experience because like a jigsaw, A213 fits very neatly into a double one two three, which is what I think narcissists are.
15:55
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They've got themselves, themselves, then they think about anything else. They probably don't really even get to two and three or three and two because of the double one most of the time. Anyway, this strange elation is quite attractive. Sorry about the mower. Hopefully I'll just talk a bit closer to the MIC and we can drown out that sound over there. Anyway, this thought kept going and I I don't, I didn't talk to mum about this part because it happened a few days after that conversation.
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I was thinking about I was actually here at the land building a I'm growing all these bouganvilia in a row to make a beautiful rainbow wall hedge, and I there was the string that needed to get pulled along to measure the line. And it was all tangled up and. I said to my partner actually about how I'm I'm a master detangler because I remember as a child I was very entrepreneurial. As a child I liked creating businesses, you know, I was only, I don't know, six or seven. I remember creating. I wanted to go to the Canberra show and have money for the rides.
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So I started a little shop where I started building out of shells. Little sea creatures, I. Glue them together and got the little googlely eyes and made I had these coral and made little scenes and made shell creatures. And another business I had was making bracelets and I'd go door knocking. Back in the eighties it was okay to go as a young child. Door knocking. I don't think these days I can't imagine many children doing that without supervision. But back then it was safe. I you know all kids did more crazy things. I rode around my.
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Bmx all the time, you know, free. I was free anyway. I made money from my little businesses and got to the show, got to go on the rides. But I had this invention, what I wanted to do at the Ainsley shops when I'm older. I knew I'm not old enough to have that particular business because I couldn't rent a shop. But I had a I had a fantasy or a plan or a idea of my shop that I wanted to open and such a kid. Conversion shop, but it fits together with what we're talking about.
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I wanted to have a detangling shop where it's only objective was to detangle anything anyone brought in. So you've got string entangles, you've got wires or cables. And if you bring it to my shop, I will detangle it for you, because I liked detangling things as a child. And in a way, I think that having this podcast, I'm I've successfully opened that detangling shop, but I'm just, I think it's being more useful to help empaths become aware of the fact that there are such things as tangled nations.
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And it's good to get free from them or notice them before they even happen so you don't even end up in them. And that's my mission with this. I'd like to save time for people so you don't end up in these spaghettis. And I think it's a far more useful way than being in that shop front detangling string or wires or slinkies. I remember it was born from one of my slinkies being in a tangle and me enjoying the fact.
19:28
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Detangling anyway. That little segue is my explanation for making up that word tangle nation, and I would like to put it in the Empath dictionary as one of the core words we need to know the meaning of and hope, mum, if you listen to this, there's a bit of a more context to where that even came from. It may have been born in my early, early years from my shop, the Detangler ration shop anyway. Let's jump into this podcast. Sorry for that segue. So let's look at how we can access the joy that's within.
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So first we need to look at what what? What's in our way? What prevents us? From getting there. So I think for every different person. We have different things in the way because we all have different life circumstances. But you would probably find most of them. You could look in reference to the five finger theory. It's probably somewhere across one of these domains, which is mind, heart, body, soul, purpose and facing shadow now.
20:49
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Facing Shadows shadow work is a very common let's say. Wall for us to access our joy because we have formed habits and beliefs. That stem from our subconscious. That actually self sabotage and prevent us from accessing our inner joy. Now this is very deep work you can do on your subconscious. And there are plenty of books out there. Actually, I've just started reading, and one that I've owned for many years. I've just reading it again. Um, the power of the subconscious. And it's it's a really interesting way.
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It talks about how how that all works and. Yeah, you could. You could read that if you want to start diving into that. But if we just look at how that then manifests externally. So everything comes from the subconscious, but then we experience it in our conscious domains. As a byproduct, often the roots are there. So what flowers or weeds have grown. So when it manifests in the mental space, like in forms of anxiety or lack of clarity or inability to do mindful attention to things, that can be a big source of our inability to access our joy because we're so caught up in our head and our thoughts and our analysis and.
22:23
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We're not able to go beyond that. What stands behind all that? So that can be one of the reasons that's in our way, in the heart space. Sometimes as an empath, we can be so heartbroken. We feel so deeply when it, when we feel and when it's when our hearts break, it's. It's it can be devastating and. Um, that can prevent us from our joy because of the purely the pain that's in, in the way it's in our heart space. It can be really hurtful. So and in that same domain, sometimes it's the people in our life that can be very demanding or abusive or. Not nurturing towards our heartspace and we may have attracted them or been in at angulation with them and that's preventing, it's an external manifestation of our inability to have that inner joy and then we experience it externally in upsetting heart.
23:33
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Relationships and yeah, that can be one of the reasons in sometimes it's our body. Like our health? And if we are suffering ongoingly from exhaustion or even our living situation, or maybe we get insomnia all the time, we don't sleep enough, or we are really unhealthy from what we eat so physically. We feel just depleted. That can be a massive reason why we're not able to feel joy, because we're our body is not happy. It's hard. It's very, very hard for us to feel that joy. Sometimes the cause is our soul, so maybe you've ticked all the boxes in your life. You know you're healthy.
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You're you've got great relationships. Mentally, you're cool. You have. Um, a really good outlet for your purpose. But you feel an emptiness like something is missing. Our or you feel out of sync with the universe and that that can be a real. Tough time of life because it's it's harder to recognise when everything seems really great or you. You might have the expectation people from the outside would look at your life. And go. How can you not be happy? You've got this, you've got that, you've got that. You've got that. They might be able to mirror it back to you, but something within you feels empty and.
25:09
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Is missing. That's usually when your soul isn't happy. Your soul isn't doing the task it knows that would be best for it for its part of the linear journey that it's here for so. This is, that's that that can be a big source of not accessing your joy as well then when we look at the purpose finger. If you're not fulfilling your ultimate potential, you're not utilising your skills and passions.
25:44
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Or you're doing a mundane, unstimulating or draining job that can easily be a source of not accessing your joy. And as I said at the start, shadow self, we can self sabotage our own happiness. And that is because of things that have happened to us and the way we think about things and the way we have a narrative going on. And past trauma, there's there's a lot of I mean we can't detangle, let's use that word, go into that tangle lation on this podcast. I'm so sorry about this mower. I hope, I hope you can just drown out that sound.
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But in a way, that mower can represent this noise, this distraction from our joy, because it is annoying. It's something that's in the way it's going to be, our audio wall to our own joy. And once we accept it and allow it just to be. Hopefully it disappears so it's getting a bit less already now, and the wind is here. That's nice. So when these external life situations as echard toll calls them.
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Another way to call them is external stresses which can manifest internally like when we're unhealthy as well. It's like a barrier or a distraction from our joy like that. That noisy mower that's coming back again. Regardless of the source of where that's coming from. Our focus is consumed by them and we can reside in the fear rather than the love, or the pain rather than the joy. And it seems in this world that we're currently living as humans on Earth. It seems like a world of duality.
27:50
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But we have a choice of which vehicle we can. Board get upon get inside of. And I choose love and joy every time. I have the hippie ideals probably because my parents were hippies in the seventies and had me then think the hippie ideals are very, very strong in me. Peace, love and happiness. But I wanna look at now why? Why we as empaths brings so much joy to others? 2-1-3 is where expert 2-1-3 is master 2-1 threes. But why? Why do we do this? It's because we validate them. It's because we see them. It's because we love them. It's because we crossed the bridge of empathy to their islands.
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And we're always happy to do that. We can't even help doing it. We just do it because that's just how we are. It's our skill and we're absolute master accommodates of them and when people feel accommodated, truly and truly seen and truly loved and truly validated. They feel a joy because that pure connection. And that's wonderful. And we get joy from that too quite often. It's a beautiful thing to have a deep connection with somebody, whether a friendship or a relationship. And I I love that about being an empath. I love the fact that I can sit with a stranger and we can dive deep pretty fast and and and and it's just rich. I I couldn't imagine it any other way.
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I I don't like superficial. Are living. I like to have the depth and I like to do it immediately. I don't why waste time? Let's just dive on in. What's there to be afraid of? I wouldn't want it any other way, however. There comes a time when if we're not doing that consciously, or we don't have boundaries, or we don't have our wellspring really flowing, just doing that is what taxes us and what keeps us in the 2-1-3 configuration. Because, yeah, we can do that till the cows come home, but. It's not a safe and sustainable way if we want to be an abundant wellspring because we're too often on other people's islands, it's a 2-1-3 and we need to really become a 1-2-3 So we need to close the hotel.
30:33
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Because it's time for us to accommodate ourselves. It's time for us to give ourselves permission. Four time. Time to breathe. Time to say no and shut that door. Time to do whatever the bleep we want to, and without saying sorry and without needing to explain ourselves. Because we need to renovate our hotel. And have a really long bath in our centre. And find our sacred source of our onsen and our beautiful hot spring from deep within ourselves. And we can only do that when we shut that door for a while.
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And when we're ready, when we're a nice 1-2-3 we can emerge and we will be at like a never ending ending fountain. And the beautiful thing about it is, once we get to that stage, we don't even need boundaries anymore and we don't even need to ground anymore because. We won't be like a jellyfish on the ocean of emotion, as a submissive to the tides will be transformed into a wellspring and thriving.
32:08
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On all the departments and. The other name for that is being a super empath. Once we're a super empath, we can proudly open that front door. And say come on in anybody, anybody and everybody. Because you are not as affected because you're you have your masters quarters with your beautiful wellspring that you've found the source of. And you can just flow and flow and flow. And today's episode is going to give you some tips how to do just that.
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And before I give you the advice of 10 things. I think could help you access that joy. I'm gonna tell you why I think I'm well placed to give you such advice and. I think it's because I'm, if we look, I like looking at things on a spectrum. And if we look at the joy spectrum from, you know, really, really happy joy from the five year old, how they feel on Christmas morning, some of them. To absolute misery. I'm I've lived up in the top end, I think most of my life, even when I've been through. Harsh situations, challenging situations when I was younger and also through relationships, I I I'm very good at putting a bubble up and living in my self created joyland and.
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I also did external things that were like, yeah, let's just say it as it is. There was a time I was a traditional hedonist where I chased things that made me feel good, especially in my twenties. I I was living a life of a Rockstar for a while. I was a touring musician for a decade around Europe and. I wasn't partying all that time, but there were certainly I was around that atmosphere and the endorphins and the joyful feelings you get when you are on a stage performing in front of thousands of people had quite a few where else? The lead singer of a band called Dizzy Denton, where we played in the Plaza mayor in Madrid as the headliners for the summer festival and it's just packed it.
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I think that's full 5000 people and it's. You feel amazing because I remember cause I used to do intentional concerts. I remember working with the energy. It wasn't just singing. I I before I remembered that particular concert, the one that's come to mind there. I remember setting the intention. I want to raise the frequency of everyone in the crowd through the music, and I liked working with the power of intention and energy and that gig rocked. I mean Spanish people in concerts anyway, as as audience members are so excited and happy and they just want to party and I but I Remember Me setting that intention and even when I was dancing, pulling my arms up and.
35:31
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Trying to lift the energy it it it really helped and I mean the kind of internal chemicals that go on when you have a collective energy like that in such A and using music as well powerful music it was a fantastic and like that's right up there on the end of the joy spectrum especially when you couple that with great hotels and great sex in hotels and parties and.
36:03
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Sometimes internal chemical balances to enhance the experiences. It was also like the drive behind that. Not just the in experience of that, but me choosing to follow my core passions of become being a musician that travels Europe, are writing novels, writing kids books, setting up positive impact businesses. All of the things I've chosen to do are all. They're kind of. That's a healthy hedonist in a way, because they're always things that make me feel good. I like feeling good. I've had pain.
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I don't like the pain so much. So I've chosen things that make me feel great and I can make other people feel great. That's when I feel they're even greatest, when my three is just thriving and I'm really contributing in a good way. And yeah, I would say I'm a joy junkie and I've been a joy junkie. Most of my life. So even when I was in year 12 already lived alone. Then I moved out when I was 16 and I remember in year 12 was president of the school and I loved school as my framework.
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When I had to choose my subjects, I was the only one who chose all of the artistic. I chose art, drama, music and three unit art. And even though they were all rated down in points because you should do the traditional subjects if you want to get more. Scores to go to university I I didn't care. I was a joy junkie. I wanted to do all my creative things. I still went to university for four years after that and did music. But even back then I followed my joy. And when I wrote my book November Fox, the subtitle is following joy because the Rubik's Cube, the teleporting Rubik's Cube is named she's a present is joy, and she's made-up for from the six sides.
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Mind, heart, body, soul, purpose and facing shadows from the five finger theory so. I'm certainly a maybe a joy expert. That's my masterdom. I know how to. I know how to access joy myself because I've done it my whole life and so that's why I feel like I'm well placed these days in my twenties and. Thirties Oh, from my sorry thirties and forties starting in. My joy is very much health based. Like I love feeling healthy and nearly most days I'm feeling great because I like to be productive and I've I follow my five finger theory, I feel my cup and that's what gives me joy and I feel great inside.
38:45
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So yeah, that's why I feel like I'm I'm well suited to be a guide for you on this, this joy journey. Anyway, let's jump on in. I'm glad the mowers. Less noisy right now. Sorry about the other. I knew they'd be soaring and chainsawing and all kinds of things, but it's part of this experience. It's exciting. It's the first talk in the future right here. I'm building a stage in a beautiful garden and they'll be hosting talks and workshops and gigs in a tropical garden to help raise consciousness and actually, officially, me sitting here.
39:24
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Is the first talk, and this podcast is the very first daboo. Illness and soul enhancing talk that's going to happen. I'm just not on a stage. I'm on a nice little chair that I bought to put near the fire pit. Anyway, let's jump on in. Here are 10 things that will help you get closer to access your own joy number one prioritise your health and. If you go back to last week's episode, Holistic Health, whatever that means for you about recharging. Our body is our temple and when we are in peak health with our mind, our body, sole purpose and shadows. We are the best placed temple to hold the winds of joy.
40:22
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And that leads me on to point number two. It is like a wind. Joy is like a beautiful breeze that blows through your soul. And number two is about allowing that. Allowing it it's not something joy isn't something to hold on to tightly it's about allowing it to be the sublime breeze that it is. And if your hotel body temple is is the facilitator. Allowing it to tickle your skin to give you goosebumps or. Just allow just breathing it in as it's with you. Is a lovely, lovely way to enhance it and experience it because every time you attempt to clasp it, it's just futile.
41:17
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It's like. When you try to hold a snowflake, it's just going to melt away. Allow the snowflake to just be. Allow, allow, allow, allow the joy to emerge. Allow your wellspring to reveal itself. Don't chase allow. So number two is allowance. Number three. Is releasing judgment. John, this is an all domains judgement of other people. Judgment of yourself. Of life, of everything, the more we just. Judge things we're getting in our own way of allowing him back to number 2, number two is a really strong one for this, by the way. It'll keep recurring. But when we do that.
42:12
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When we release the judgment, we can simply observe and be in the awareness. And I'm going to have to segue again into a couple of things here because the awareness has brought up. To a couple of things in my mind. A few weeks ago, a week or two I can't remember now there maybe 10 days ago. Ohh watched a tick tock of an old man he set a task he was saying just try this exercise for a month and I'm I'm actually doing it and I I've got a screensaver on my phone to remind me every time and it says I am infinite awareness having a human experience and he said.
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When you do that for a month and remind yourself all the time. That your infinite awareness, having a human experience, more synchronicities will happen and things will start happening in a different flow. And I often feel that anyway in my life with my creative outlet. I do go into flow state quite often and I feel like I do dance quite like comfortably as a as said that in my November Fox book.
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It's like we're a tentacle of the all that is and having a human. Experience to create and learn and send the information back. In a way, it's the way. The oil that is could experience itself by putting us here in this linear world and giving us consciousness, but and enough for getting that we we can be like children exploring anyway, having having that screen saver reminding me all the time is is really good. And then synchronicity happened this week. I don't know, it's probably connected to that because I'm getting more into this infinite awareness, having a human experience modality.
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By consciously bringing that energy forth. And one of my new Tik tok friends suggested i read a book. Conversations with God, and I've I've heard of it before. I'm not religious. I'm I have my own. Spiritual beliefs based on my experience and I try. I don't like to be dogmatic or I don't like labels. I don't like putting anything in a decided way because I like to leave it all open and and let my feelings and my experience be my.
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Spiritual side of my world and I don't like labelling so I was a bit I wasn't sure whether I should listen to conversations with God but I I'm I like to be open. So anyway started listening to that this week and it isn't religious which is great because I I I would probably couldn't tolerate if it was too dogmatic and it's very very curious what has happened. This week since listening to that, a lot of the voice, because I'm doing the audio book and it's really nice, it's swaps between a God voice in a male God voice, which sounds like how you would imagine God would sound like if there was a God in any form, and a female one.
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And you would imagine she does it beautifully as well. But what's really interesting, the content, what they talk about. Is the same voice that the character in my book, November Fox, the architect, and even the art when the architect came through. And that's what it felt like when I wrote that book. Uh, the architect is a otherworldly. Observer and creator like a distant not so much a creator, but an architect of certain frameworks of reality, but an observer who is on their own mission to come and connect with human experience and. Is this glue between the dimensions of self and November Fox's reality and is the observer of November Fox? Anyway, the architect character in my book is a very philosophical energy and otherworldly, and there's so many things already at the beginning of this book.
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Conversations with God, it sounds like the architect speaking. It's the same content, it's the same voice, and it's really trippy. Or not. Maybe it's not trippy, but it's um. It's an interesting thing because all three are connected, me writing that I'm going to have an infinite awareness of having a human experience coming across that book right now, reminding me of the architect's voice. All three of them. Talk about this releasing of judgment and simply observing and being awareness, being awareness, watching it all.
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Anyway, it's very interesting, so I recommend listening if you're interested in. Such topics conversations with God is so far very, very interesting. And feel free to also listen to November Fox and you might hear the architect and feel the same that those two characters. Although November Fox was written for a younger audience, it's not as. Adult there are. There's certainly the it's the same voice, it's the same vibe. It's, it's it's it's interesting anyway. Number four let's move on is rewriting. Your inner narrative. So our brains are wired to provide context and make sense of our experience.
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So when something happens, or someone says something, we tell ourselves a story of what it was. But often our inner narrator is misguided. And it's jaded from past experiences, and that voice can keep a wall up between ourselves and our pure joy and. You'll notice this if you just look at if you ask the question why can't we feel bliss in a pure mundane task of sweeping a pavement? Some of us can. Probably some. Monks up in a monastery in Nepal.
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Probably find bliss in that. But why can't we in the Western world cleaning our house, find that pure joy? Some of us can, and that's fantastic. But if you can't, it's likely that our in and aerator is carrying on about wishing it was doing something else, saying I shouldn't be cleaning this. Ohh this is annoying. Ohh blah blah blah blah blah and. A really nice actually that popped up in that book.
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Conversations with God. A nice way to describe this cause I've often talked about the. In a narrator and watching the watcher like we watch our experience, but then once we can observe that, that's when we get into this higher context. In that book, they call it the sponsoring thought so. Um, the God presence says you've got your thoughts, which you know they're going on, doing their things, having their feedback about reality. But then what's the sponsoring thought? That sponsors that thought and that's like the observer to me. It's also like the subconscious where all those seeds, where they come from that are going in to give power to and context to the front version of our experience, so.
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If we rewrite that purely by stepping into observing and looking what the sponsoring thought is, that can really help us take down those walls to access our joy. Because we see that many of it, much of it is a construct that we've made for ourselves. And that construct creates a wall and it's all happening within ourselves and we just have to break it down. So number five is being intentional and dominating our own realities. I have a podcast episode, I can't remember what number it is, but. It's all about using the power of intention. So I think when we want to experience joy we if we set clear intentions to break down the walls, preventing us from having the joy break down the.
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Things that are stopping us from seeing where the source of our wellspring is actually located. We can get there faster because the working with the power of intention is like, yeah, it's the best fuel you can do. However, number six and you'll hear that in the intention podcast, we need to let go. We need to release expectations and. It it's closely connected to number two, which is the allowance. Again, it's like letting it. Once you set a clear intention, we need to allow and let go and let the breeze let that air come in. It's like when you start a fire, you put all the wood on, you light the flame.
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If you just smother it, it won't burn. You need to have the air let it breathe. So said it clear intention, but let it go. Number seven is gaining perspective, looking at it from the moon and like the architect says in November Fox. We are on linear Tik tok tik tok is the architect's version of time and. Here we are in linear Tik tok. But it's quite likely that our souls are eternal. So if you can tune into what that actually feels like, what does eternity? Feel like so when you remove our linear time of born life, marriage non marriage school.
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Mortgage house, build death if you take all that away. And just try to. Go into what it's like to not have the start and the end. Try to wrap your head around Infinity. There's a great Netflix documentary I watched the other day about Infinity. It's pretty, uh, mind blowing, if you can even get a bit of that. I got a glimpse in my twenties. I was in Berlin, actually, at a party. I got a glimpse of the eternal and it was pretty immense and. It's almost like a matrix moment. Uh, of which pill do you want to have, the red pill or the blue pill? And we're here on linear in linear tik tok for a reason and we're meant to have that but sometimes it's good to step out of that.
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Because we can, just by going to those places with our minds. Having that perspective, even for a moment. We can be sitting in the same place like I'm sitting here exactly as I did a few moments ago, but purely from that. Lovely thought of jumping outside of linear Tik tok and going into. The eternal cause. That's quite as a possibility that there is an eternal existence that we're not aware of, because if we were aware of it, they would stop us from doing the learning and the exploring, the creating we're doing here.
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Why would we if we were eternal? We've the answer. It's like the puzzle is given. Why would we explore? Because it's already, it goes on and on and on. It makes sense to take that away. That's what makes life magical. It's like, I want to. Live in the matrix. I love it here. I I don't mind if we become eternal. If we are eternal, we're going to get there anyway one day. Why not just embrace this beautiful unfolding here? And when we do that, when we can wrap our heads, even for a tiny little bit. About this. Non start end past, future construct. More of the wall that is between you and your joy just starts crumbling away.
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It's just a natural occurrence because that perspective. Almost forces you to embrace while we're here because we know that this one, this reality is fleeting. This matrix, this start end linear span. It's just fleeting. And when we know that one day it could be eternal, it may not be. I don't know the answer. This is what I mean. I'm not. That's why I wouldn't go into a religion.
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Even that could be just a mental construct. I don't know. I like to keep. All answers on the table. But even just having it on the table in itself. Uh, you then appreciate life here in a new tone and a new lens. And that perspective is a is a. Is a beautiful way to access your joy anyway number eight trust your gut. And I think you know better than anything I could ever tell you on this podcast where your Joy Spring is located. I can guide you and give you some ideas and tips and mental forms and pictures like hotels and wellsprings and nonsense and.
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Jellyfish on the sea just guide you in your own direction, but you're the one who knows where it really lives. You're the one who can open up that Channel. To your inner. Communication and knowing and if you if you can't access it right now, it could be that you have got a lot of distractions what I talked about the things that are in the way, maybe you need to go on a retreat or? Have a very intentional beach walk, where before you do that beach walk, you said a very clear intention that you intend to get insights and signs and knowledge about how.
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Are the next steps for you to access your inner wellspring and joy and once you've set that clear intention and let it go and go on your intentional beach walk. Or maybe you're in the forest. Potentially you will get some insights. They will come to you. If you ask, it'll come to you. But you have to be intentional about it. And yeah, so that that should help as well, and you'll feel that in your gut and trust it. You know better than anybody. Number nine is another thing that could help spend time in your beautiful blank book.
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I always talk about a blank book, and it's a variation on last week's theme, which is how to recharge so when you follow your own. Plan of recharging. It will actually just recharging will bring you joy and recharging and joy are like best friends. One is the action, like doing the things to recharge and one is the passion and an emotion as a consequence of the action or the non action. Sometimes it's non action that you need to do depending on how you're configured and what your life situation is.
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And number ten. Is just being now. This is the hardest one for a lot of people. And it comes up a lot in November, Fox. The architect talks a lot about the busy people doing, doing, doing, and it's the same in. Conversations with God. That's why I feel like they're the same voice they they both talk about being. And it comes from surrendering and allowing a non judgement and observing the grand unfolding in every moment.
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And when we do that, and we take that space and give our permission, ourselves permission to close that door to allow the unfolding within. Things can be revealed, but. We need to give ourselves the time. Ohh my goodness, it's finally silent on this block. All there is is the wind and the breeze, finally. Sorry, I just need to breathe for a bit because that's just lovely.
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When we're just able to be. We can start to see this wonder ride of life. As the beautiful, sensational thing it is. It's absolutely phenomenal that we exist in the first place. It's amazing that we were the fastest sperm, that we're exactly the right distance from the sun to not burn or not freeze. We've had enough stability of the Earth to develop to the point that we are. We're conscious enough to. Listen to a podcast about holistic wellbeing. We are in a time of technology that we can even deliver such a thing.
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There's so many amazing alignments to bring you right now to this moment and I think if you're listening to this podcast it's a real. Affirmation to yourself that you are on that path. You are you're probably there already. And my friend Narada drew me a tarot card this week and it the thing that resonates and stood out the most was this one line that sometimes the answer is right in front of your face and I think. That's a message for all of us and anyone of you listening that.
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That joy that you. Would love to have more of or just even some of or every single day. It is there, it's all there. You already have it. So you just need to allow it to emerge. And find that Wellspring. Find the place where it doesn't end. When you have a beautiful wellspring, it never runs out. There's no droughts in a wellspring. It's just going to keep going and going so. Anyway, when you follow your joy. You will. Breakdown those walls and you'll get the most out of your life.
1:01:42
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Hello maggie's. It's too Maggie's chasing each other now. Having fun. They know where their wellspring is. And yeah, so I wish for anyone listening to this that you find that never ending abundant wellspring. Because when you do. Not only you'll be filling your cup every single day, it'll just flow out. Because you'll be tapped in. It's almost like a mainlining from the source of all that is, and stepping into your highest version of yourself, your greatest potential.
1:02:22
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And when you do that, and you allow it to flow through you like a beautiful breeze. That joy. It heals you, it cleanses you. It feels your cup. Once you do that, you're in the best placed position to really give. And we are best love giving. Ohh, that Mikey's doing such a beautiful song. Just for you. Hello, maggie um. When that cup is flowing over, you will. Ohh, sorry. I just wanna listen to that maggie sorry, I should stay on path to finish this podcast. You'll be able to give we we empaths want to give to people. We just love it. It's in our DNA when you have that spring overflowing.
1:03:18
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You'll be able to sing like a Maggie everyday and give all of it overflowing to your loved ones. And your friends and when you do and have mutually beneficial relationships you'll shine for the world a strong radiant threes and allow your big diamond hearts to show the way in a heart led society. And that's my vision for all empaths to self. Actualise a strong one, two threes and lead the way for our collective consciousness to up our game and transform everybody humanity.
1:03:57
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And it's a pretty big. Vision but. You've gotta dream big to achieve things, so yeah. When you're going from being a 2-1-3 or a 3-2-1-2-1-2-3 By following joy. That is the spark. That's how you will get there. You get there by following your joy and that's. That's the essence of this podcast. Follow your joy and you will shine brightly. And I'm going to actually probably leave you with story time and song time today. And I think that's because we're on the beautiful land here, the first podcast of the wellbeing enzel.
1:04:47
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I'm going to do both because. Because joy is certainly one of my top domains, I'm going to need to do both, especially cause I talked about the architects so much today. The architect needs to come forward. I haven't decided what the architect, which passage it'll be. I'll have to go home and have a listen. What's the one that needs to come forward? But before that, I'm going to leave you with song time now, the song that I feel. Should be played today, probably because of the book conversations with God. As I said, I'm not religious, but I did write a song some years ago on my alchemy of the heart album called Heaven says.
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And it's almost like there's an instruction going on right now from a ground source. And I still, I don't even like putting in in the terms of God or heaven or things like that. Heaven is right here if we want it to be. But this song is when you've arrived at a place, when you see something for the first time. You've had that breakthrough. You might have found a key to where your wellspring is located. And you open every part of yourself to the allowance of that joy, and the main line is, what's the deal when heaven says you're the one? Now you're in.
1:06:13
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The song could be a person, but it can also be the source of your wellspring. What is the deal when Heaven says you're the one? So try to open up to find that source, my beautiful darling empaths. Because when you do. You'll step into self actualising as the next level of this radiant beating. Being that you already are, you're already that, you're just stepping into it even further. In depth and breadth. So this is. Heaven says from my alchemy of the heart album.
