Podcast Episode 11 - Empath Unplugged with Esther Bertram
How Can Empaths Amplify Their Life Vibrancy?
In this episode of Empath Unplugged, Esther talks about how empath’s can amplify their life vibrancy. If you are already a 123, but don’t yet feel yet like your are living your highest vibrant potential, then this episode is for you! Empaths are highly sensitive people who are attuned to the emotions and energy of others. They often absorb the emotions of those around them, which can lead to overwhelm and exhaustion. However, empaths also have the ability to recalibrate and learn self love, to become super empaths where they can amplify themselves and consequently the positive emotions of those around them. When you are in alignment with your own energy and emotions, you can act as a catalyst for positive change. In this episode, Esther dives into so philosophical reasonings as to why it is important to vibrafy, how she does it in her own life and shares some tips on how empaths can Amplify Their Life Vibrancy. She talks about the importance of writing things down, planning and taking small steps towards amplifying so you can use your empathic abilities to create positive change in yourself and the world and live life to the max! #LetsVibrafy
Full Transcription
00:01
Esther Bertram
Welcome to Empath Unplugged, a frequent release podcast of RAW and philosophical reflections on wellbeing, love, and the meaning of life. Brought to you by your host, Esther Bertram, founder of the Inzel, a rejuvenation island and community for empaths. Expect topics such as philosophy, psychology, art, culture, spirit, science, holistic health, and the occasional beach fire song to be part of your wonder ride to your Oceanside escape. It's time to breathe in the salty air and bask in the soothing warm sun to relax, reflect and vibe along with a fellow empath to rejuvenate.
00:42
Esther Bertram
As most episodes refer to my 1-2-3 theory, I will provide an overview of it here for new listeners. Feel free to skip ahead 4 minutes if you know it already. In my twenties I created 2 interlocking theories as I needed a framework for three reasons. One, to know how to optimise my holistic wellbeing to have mutually beneficial relationships and letting go of toxic relationships and tangle nations with narcissists 3 to have lots of time and energy to give in to my positive impact businesses and contribute to the world in a meaningful way.
01:21
Esther Bertram
I've now spent two decades putting the theories into practice. And they work, hence me now sharing them with the world. The 1-2-3 theory is a way to assess if you are optimised and able to give the most amount of love and energy to the world for the longest sustained time. The five fingered theory explores each domain of holistic health and works in conjunction with the 1-2-3 theory and helps you calibrate each department to have maximum output in your life. The 1-2-3 theory states you need to be in the order of the one. 2-3-1 is yourself. Two are your loved ones.
02:02
Esther Bertram
Three is the rest of the world or your contribution. When you nurture your holistic wellbeing, first one, then you are better able to have mutually beneficial relationships too. And as a byproduct of this combination, you have so much excess energy to give three your contribution to the world. This order of the 1-2-3 ensures maximum output in all departments for the longest duration. Some people are three two ones or three one twos, putting their cores business or mission. Before anything else, this isn't sustainable long term if you value health and relationships.
02:43
Esther Bertram
Many empaths, like I was in the past, have the default setting of being a 2-1-3 giving to others before themselves. But that blocks their flow into their three and as a consequence, they have little time and energy for their contribution. It's particularly dangerous to be a 2-1-3 when you are together with or around a narcissist. As they are double one two threes or double one three twos where they put themselves first twice in an energy vamping way, when an empath has it too at the start, giving to others first, this fits like a jigsaw into the narcissist double one.
03:24
Esther Bertram
This bond is notoriously risky for empaths and often hard to break. So I'm on a mission to help empaths become strong one two threes. Or would I like to call super empaths so they can thrive? In life, love and work and not get caught wasting years of their precious life in tangled nations. This podcast, the empath community I have built, and my book the 1-2-3 theory are all part of achieving this mission.
03:53
Esther Bertram
To dive deeper into both theories, head over to the123theory.com where you can read or listen to my book. Now that you have the basic gist of the 1-2-3 theory, let's begin this podcast. Hello listeners. Welcome to podcast episode number eleven. How can empaths amplify their life vibrancy? So this is an interesting topic and it came from one of my listeners who asked this question. And they explained it that they feel like they are A 123 But they need to do more in each of those departments, and. I saw it more like and then I interpreted it as a kind of vibrancy.
04:43
Esther Bertram
If you imagined a photo that you've taken and it has just normal colouring and you put a vibrancy filter on it. Suddenly everything looks brighter and richer and more colourful and exciting. So I so there's a bit like turning U this volume and amplifying your life vibrancy so. It's an episode that's more appropriate for people on the Empath quest, the Super empath quests that have already converted from being a 2-1-3 or A 321 Into a 1-2-3 so there might be towards the end of this empath quest.
05:25
Esther Bertram
And they just are in that last part before they get to their beautiful garden of ultimate joy where they just want to experience the depth and the height and the breadth of experience more than they are and. Yeah, it's. You can still get probably some value from this even if you're still at 2-1-3 because it can give you some ideas towards. Where you're heading on your super empath quest and I think no matter where you are in the process.
06:04
Esther Bertram
Vibrate tying your life is a good thing to do because life is short and we may as well make the most of it. So that's what today's topic is and I even thought of a hash tag for it, which is hash tag. Let's vibrate ya so we can do it collectively. I like to continue turning up my vibrancy volume everyday that I can. Because I enjoy a colorful rich life. Anyway, so let's have a look at why this could be important or why anyone would want to do this.
06:44
Esther Bertram
So when we are an empath on this quest to become a really high. Impact super empath. If you look at the 1-2-3 theory, we want to have that imbalance to start with the one two and three in order. On the one to have the really best version of our one, we want all departments where we have the five finger theory, mind, heart, body, soul and purpose. To be absolutely optimised and on all cylinders firing.
07:19
Esther Bertram
And that's all about a holistic health and getting into that state. Just as the second point, having mutually beneficial relationships, often that's a byproduct of having the one in a fully thriving state. And then ultimately we want to positively impact the world, and we can do that the most when we're in that order. But when you have been a 2-1-3 or A321 and you've struggled to become a 1-2-3 because often it's a long and testing journey.
07:58
Esther Bertram
And it can last a long time, many decades or. Even, yeah, some people that might last 50 years, 60 or 70 years, who knows? It can be a very long process to become a 1-2-3 but when you've got to that stage and you you're finally working out how to be a 1-2-3 Yeah, often you can. There's something holding you back from. Really living to your highest potential and your vibrancy volume knob could be stuck on a kind of lower lower setting.
08:37
Esther Bertram
And it might be because there's multiple reasons why this can be so. Maybe because your work is really demanding and if you're still working. After, maybe it doesn't matter what age you are, but maybe just the work that you do. You come home from work and you're just so exhausted from that work that you can't even think about. Turning up any volumes, you just want to turn all the volumes down and recuperate so you can go back to your demanding job. And or maybe other people need you all the time and even if you're no longer at 2-1-3 so you're not putting their needs always before yourself, you still might have commitments to other people.
09:18
Esther Bertram
And yeah, it's sometimes hard to break a pattern of this self nurturing and. Giving even more to yourself when you are, you know, so caught up, giving your time and energy away. Maybe internally a reason could be that you just can't be bothered because you don't see the point, or it's just. Life is making you a bit. Apathetic to, you know, go for anything because you just.
09:53
Esther Bertram
There's so many reasons why you could end up in that state, and often it can be exhaustion. You've been burnt out and you're just you're actually just need to rest and recuperate for ages before. But maybe you've done all that. Maybe you've got through your rest period and you you've been through your battle to become a 1-2-3 and you just feel like you life is running and. You know you want to get more out of it. You know you want that volume to be turned up, but you just don't know why or how to do that stage.
10:29
Esther Bertram
And that's exactly what this episode is about. Personally, I ultimately think it's a shame if empaths have come so far down the quest and become a 1-2-3 to then not give themselves the depth and height. Of experience that they truly deserve, I feel like. They're not living their best life or achieving the highest potential they can, and it's that's a real shame. I think if you don't turn the volume up, you're missing out on the richness of what life has to offer. And a lot of today's episode actually is gonna. By mistake. It wasn't planned actually to feed into the last episode, so probably good to listen to these two in sequence, because we're going to talk a bit about this.
11:24
Esther Bertram
It's about different parts of our brain and our mind and going to new places to break our paradigms that we've been so accustomed to. And yeah, today's episode, it's aim is to basically help you vibrancy your life and instead of being a 1-2-3 that's just written down in a light pencil. We'll take out a big graffiti multi coloured graffiti cans and spray it on a wall, a massive 1-2-3 and turn the volume up. Okay so. I'm going to talk a little bit about my experiences and things that have helped me in my life and. How I've lived a vibrant life and continue to and why? and.
12:19
Esther Bertram
I'm going to talk a lot about the importance of writing things down, so this has been something I've always done because I'm a songwriter, started writing songs when I was 13. I've always had a book, a blank book. I've always got multiple blank books, actually, for different things. But i use them for different things, I'll often they'll use them for creative expression, just getting song ideas out or planning, and do a lot of mind maps by hand and. Manifesting as well in the intention setting so as well as starting with intention from your mind.
12:54
Esther Bertram
And like I did that episode about setting the Archer Bow and arrow on your target, often I write down the next stage after that is writing it, writing things down and. As a testament to that working, and I'll tell you a little story so often people talk about doing. You know, moodboards dreamboard. Sorry for manifesting, they really help. I've done a few of them in my life, but more words actually than pictures. And it was back in when was that my second year of university, so that must have been 1998 And.
13:37
Esther Bertram
I was living with Charlie, my friend and guitarist. He's becoming a bit of a character in these podcasts. Sorry Charlie, I hope it's alright. I don't mention anyone's name many people's names, but none do mention Charlie's. Anyway, I don't think he'll mind. Hi Charlie, if you ever listen to this. We were living in Mackay, studying and he we were talking. I wasn't I'd broken up from gosh, that was not a relationship I wanted to be and Charlie actually helped me get free from that and then you know a single in that next year and he was he asked me what kind of a guy I was looking for and I said, OK, I'll tell you what kind of.
14:21
Esther Bertram
Partner I want to have and I went and wrote a full a four. I was 19 at the time. And I know, yeah, 19 turning 20 because it's 98 so. I rode a full list and I even remember i haven't seen this paper. Must be somewhere in all my belongings somewhere. But I remember breaking it down into categories and these. This is actually the beginnings of the five finger theory cause I remember breaking it down into.
14:50
Esther Bertram
Mentally they're like this. Physically like this. Spiritually, there's almost the mind, heart, body, soul, purpose. I can't remember and I really need to find it. But it was a full page, right? And had it was pretty specific and I even remember riding in there. You know, they've gotta be good at sports and, you know, these kind of things you look for when you're 19 and I wrote. And they ride a motorbike and then in brackets or that's just a bonus. So it was like a little clause for the universe where they don't really have to but you know, it's a nice little plus like I guess cause I was a motorbike rider and my male friends I grew up with were as well, so.
15:36
Esther Bertram
I thought, you know, I could imagine my future partner also being a motorbike rider. Anyway, i wrote it all down. That was 98 You know, I finished that part of university my second year, then I moved down to Lismore and I did two more years of music, so I did four years altogether. I was no longer living with Charlie, then I'd moved down to new south wales from queensland and. With studying and that's the year where I met my partner who was going to be my partner for the next years. He was the one who helped me through my dream training. And very grounding and nurturing partner.
16:21
Esther Bertram
And I remember. At some point, you know, cause it was a year or two after I'd written that paper, I remember remembering about the paper and I was like, ohh gosh, you gotta find that. Or maybe I don't remember. I don't know. I can't remember whether I've tried to find it or I just stumbled across it. Whatever happened, I opened it. And read through it. And I gave it to him.
16:46
Esther Bertram
He read through it. He goes, that's me and I said, yeah, I know it's exactly you because he was very holistically developed and mature and rounded and deep soul and nurturing and integrated, emotionally intelligent. Man and. He didn't ride a motorbike though, but all of the other things he was and he even he was the one who said to me, that's me and I said yeah, no, it's me. So I rang up Charlie and said charlie remember that bit of paper? I wrote to you when you said who's my ideal man? And I said, well, yeah, I'm with him and I found him and manifested him through my intention, writing.
17:34
Esther Bertram
Anyway, I didn't think much of it. I mean, I did. I thought, well, it's yet another synchronicity or power of creation or whatever. It was the very beginning of me starting that was before I learned about intention, but the start of my, you know, manifesting, working with. The power of thought and. Life goes on. And two decades later, no one decade later, sorry, early thirties. So just in 20 years or 10 or so years later. Is when I met my. Partner I've been with now for 12 years. And if I think about it.
18:19
Esther Bertram
He's actually all of those things as well. All but he also rides a motorbike. Not a dirt bike, which is what I probably would have imagined. He's more road bike rider. I'm actually glad that he doesn't ride it at the moment because now my mature head is more safety conscious. But sometimes manifesting can take decades but. It's interesting. I need to find that look. I'm in the middle of building a house at the moment when I unpack everything. I'm going to track down that paper. And my the 1998 one, and I will put it online on my private diary. All patrons of my podcast and creative things get access to my private diary.
19:10
Esther Bertram
So I'm actually going to find that paper and put it up there. I think that'll be a nice post. Anyway, that's a takeaway version of why it's important to write things down. And now I just want to talk a bit about. I guess my philosophical view. Of why and how I live a vibrant life myself. And I'm a big dreamer. If you've listened to this podcast, you know I'm lucid Dreamer as well. And in my waking world, I'm a chaser of dreams. I like to dream big and go get them so. Why do I do this why? Where's what is this about? Apart from my DNA that I get from my father of just being a.
19:59
Esther Bertram
Gung ho. Action list get shit done person. It on a deeper level it's too 2 main things the first thing. Is I'm really acutely aware of. The miracle of existence in itself and. If I think about the mathematics of the following, what I'm going to say to you? That does my head in completely the probability. So let's just go on a little math. I did this a bit on the synchronicity episode. And that was also a mind boggling maths thing. I do like maths, but it sometimes does your head in even more if you put it in put life things in that context. So if you think about the millions of sperm I've talked about that last episode actually, so the sperm going to the egg already that.
21:04
Esther Bertram
Is a big miracle that. We exist because we were the fastest sperm to that egg, OK? umm. Unless of course our soul drops in later. Who knows, it could work like that, but that's 1-1 factor. But if you think about the Earth and. What it takes for life to exist and develop. If you look at the billions of years like we're going higher timelines here, the Earth has needed to be in a stable position. For life to develop enough to keep evolution meaning evolutionarily developing. Unless you have a different belief system, I'm just looking scientifically at the moment. And from Darwin's kind of angle.
22:04
Esther Bertram
That stability to keep it, you know, not being blown out by a meteor or ice ages that just last too long or whatever. There's so many other probabilities variables that could happen, but we've managed to be stable long enough. We managed also to be the exact distance from the sun. This thing, this really does my head in, so if I imagine my life as a human female in Queensland, Australia.
22:40
Esther Bertram
In most of the year, I could sit around in my bikini. Not that I do that much anymore, but maybe when this comes back eat. Can be the perfect temperature on my skin with a slight breeze on the island. And I just sometimes it does my head into think if we were a tiniest bit further away the earth from the sun. We'd be frozen if we were tiny bit closer. We'd just, you know, all melt away. And then you can have these perfect evenings where the temperature. Where I happen to be so perfect for a human body that precision of that temperature.
23:26
Esther Bertram
Is so correct that you just think what on Earth? Ok, so already faster sperm longest earth stability to develop humans, perfect position. I mean that plays into why the why the life developed because it was the perfect temperatures as well. Already that the physical situation of the probability is fascinating. So even if I was just a zombie that didn't have any of my own thoughts, it's already pretty amazing. But as soon as you then go to the next level and go okay but the perfect environment. Then within that body. You have awareness of self and your place within the universe. You can sit there and you can look at the stars and have some kind of half idea about what a black hole is and look in a microscope and have nanotechnology and all this crazy quantum stuff going on and.
24:27
Esther Bertram
We don't understand all of it, or even half of it, but the purely the fact that we can acknowledge quite a bit of it. And we're aware of our own beingness within the environment. It if you think too long and too hard about it, it's sometimes a bit dangerous. The rabbit holes are it's literally mind blowing. And it doesn't surprise me why there's religions exist, because I think, going back to this theory of control, I think people like to. Feel safe and have answers and we feel some mental constructs give us. Explanations that make us feel at peace, some of us but when you don't have those constructs and you're a free thinker? And you just look at it and observe it and you're just aware of it.
25:23
Esther Bertram
Pretty mind blowing. Anyway, that's one reason for me so. Knowing that it's just such a miracle to have all of those probabilities lined up in such a way that I'm here right now talking into this microphone, making a podcast. Maybe somebody listens to it one day or not, but if you're listening to it. And you exist. That's already an amazing thing. You exist. You were the fastest sperm on a planet that was stable for long enough, the perfect distance from the sun.
26:00
Esther Bertram
Listening to a podcast that's talking about the awareness of ourselves existing in the 1st place, it's all pretty fascinating and amazing. So just purely being aware of the miracle of existence. Makes me marvel at the mathematics and think, OK. If I don't do something with that, it's just I you have to do something with it. That brings me to my point, number two. I feel it's a responsibility to honour it, because if you don't honour it, you're not anyway all those poor slow sperms, you know you don't need to do it on their behalf.
26:41
Esther Bertram
If they knew you were the fastest and then you came here and you just didn't even turn up your vibrancy knob and you just hung around, I don't know, not doing much. They'd all be thinking like, why didn't I get the chance to be the fastest if they're not, if they're just wasting their life? away. So to honour them, it's another reason to do it. And I think. This existential commitment, if I can call it that, is. Something I need to do like in however that came about so just say before in my pre life i don't know if you can call it life if it's pre life but.
27:30
Esther Bertram
Just say I signed up for this existence before the ride happened, so I don't know. I'm U there in Seoul land and I've decided I want a human experience. I'm pretty damn sure I would have if I was in the interview process with the person behind the desk choosing the souls who are gonna go down to have a human experience. In that interview, I would have been pleading for them to give me the job because I would have promised to give it everything because I know myself well enough that. I do what I say I'm gonna do. I'm a person of my word.
28:12
Esther Bertram
If I say I'm gonna do it, I'm gonna do it. And even if I don't remember this happening, I know myself that if I was up there or down there or around there or in there, I don't know it's a spaceless place if I was at that place. Ohh, at that dimension where you're planning your human experience. I know I would have said don't worry, I'll give it everything I possibly can give it and.
28:44
Esther Bertram
I need to do it just in case I said that cause if I probably would have said that if that scenario happened. So that's number one second scenario. None of that happened. There is no pre life. We just exist from the moment maybe the sperm made it to the egg, and when we die, that's it. Existence is over. But even if that's the version of reality, it's almost more important to.
29:13
Esther Bertram
Honour the maths just in a pure. Honouring of the equation and probability because. It's so strange that it's me being me than someone else existing in me being me. So I need to show myself that I deserve to be me. I know that might sound a little bit This is why I live on an island. I think it's safe that I live on an island because if I was to talk too much to people about this, they would think, I don't know, probably best keeper on the island. She can be a. They can think like that over there. Anyway, so either way I feel like it's just too much of a miracle.
30:04
Esther Bertram
If I don't give everything I hand to life, I feel like I'd just be wasting it. So regardless, I'm here. I exist. Amazing miracle. I'm going to go for it, so this is my version of going for it, so. It's I came from my if you've heard the podcast, I came from teenage parents. Young hippies in the seventies. And I had a broken home between them and they split when I was two. Lived in a Government House in the city and then off the grid.
30:39
Esther Bertram
Bush house. No money. We're going a bit of turbulence also i had an amazing childhood in some ways that was very free and liberating, creative. I get to explore and be an adventure so there was some challenging parts and also amazing, wonderful parts and yeah, and that's where it began. Didn't have any money really, but I went to university anyway with some government support. Then I decided to travel the world, follow my dreams of being a musician, moved across with basically nothing but made it happen over there. Touring Europe, made lots of albums, spent five years writing a book about a vegan empath.
31:23
Esther Bertram
Rockstar November, Fox started a guitar school, started media and marketing business. Came back to Australia 7 years ago. Became the chief marketing officer of a music company for babies Mini Maestros. I started a publishing house, started writing lots of children's books. I then. Started my own startup and formed a company. Became the CEO of a vegan company with 20 people around the world. And that was pretty intense because was a lot of people management and that got too much, so I stopped that.
32:02
Esther Bertram
Now start an empath community. I'm writing another book. I'm building a house. I'm now building a wellbeing event space. Now being B I'm doing this podcast. It's just and I'm about to start a new adventure wrangling this monster that is tick Tock, which I've been resisting, but I'm actually excited about it now and. I know other people have done a lot more grand things with their lives than I have, but. Everything I've done has been on my terms and it's been my version of vibra frying my life if choosing creative and positive impact businesses to grow and develop and just doing everything that I want to do and.
32:51
Esther Bertram
Honestly, I feel like I'm only just beginning, although I feel like I've done a lot. I feel like I'm really, I'm just, I'm just starting to start now, which is a strange, just strange feeling. I guess that's what happens when you're a. And morphing ever evolving. Person I think all of us are that we continually try to evolve and develop and when you are an evolver. It just it it's like a birth and a rebirth and a birth and a rebirth over and over and over again, that. Growing this rich garden anyway. I've done this to honour the fact that I'm me here in this existence, and smiling at the surreal Ness of this wonder ride.
33:47
Esther Bertram
And yeah, I'm going to share with you now some practical applications for. Turning up and amplifying your vibrancy and so a lot of what I created in my life, all those projects that I just rattled off. I'd plan in mostly actually in a book that's not on the computer, although I work a lot on my computer. As I said about that, manifesting my partner writing things down is so important. So once you've set intentions in your mind, actually verbalising them and getting them out into words is the next step before the action. And before allowing the universe to help you out as well, so. This is my tips I advise you to get.
34:36
Esther Bertram
For a few reasons actually an A4 needs to be a four because you need the space. Blank book no lines because lines are like they're just keeping you two in and you need to do drawing as well. But blank book. Pay for. This is going to be a self nourishment book and. Part of your Super empath journey because it will help your creativity. Because you can doodle in there, you can plan in there, you can use it as your physical time for self time.
35:13
Esther Bertram
So I've talked a lot about when you do things in the physical world, it helps the internal process. So this is another way to externalise something. You're committing to yourself. So you're giving yourself this time by working in your book. So if you don't yet have one of those books. You can go and get one and continue the podcast after that. Otherwise just you could do the next stage with a four piece of paper and then just stick it in your book later so.
35:45
Esther Bertram
What we can do is to take our thoughts into words to then become actions. We're going to grow a bit of your five finger garden. They've stopped by just putting your hand, your non writing hand. So for me I'm right-handed so I'd put my left hand down. On the page and I'm going to trace around my hand with your fingers so you trace. Suddenly I've got a lovely spread your fingers apart so you've got a nice bit of space between your fingers.
36:23
Esther Bertram
And the first step, to vibrate, dying your life, is looking at the five departments so in each finger. Starting from left to right these words so in the little pinky finger right mind. Next finger? heart. Middle finger soul next finger. Ohh sorry, I made a mistake buddy. So Littlefinger, mind second finger? Heart, third finger body. Both finger sole. Fifth purpose. Ok. They need to first look at these areas. You might instinctly straight away know which area you need to improve to vibrancy your life. Maybe you want to improve and turn up the volume of all of them. But the key to holistic wellbeing for number one in the 1-2-3 theory? Is looking at these departments.
37:25
Esther Bertram
And making sure they all have love, attention, and. A high level of health. So mentally, how are you feeling? Emotionally, physically, just go through them in your head and know which area you want to. Improve over this next phase because this is the planning stage. And then you come into the practice o. I'm going to go through. You might already just have one department you want to work on, but I will go through some ideas for the five different places so. The key point is just think of one thing in one of the departments that you want to work on and justice, write that thing near the finger O.
38:15
Esther Bertram
It doesn't have to be a huge commitment. It can be just one thing you're going to do this week that you're going to give time and attention to that will help turn the volume up on that department. And it's about. Making that commitment and making that practice making that space for that. To begin the process so. This will start. You being able to notice how important it is to give that space and you don't have to give much time to it if you if you need to read a book about the power of little increments, it's the there's a really good book called the Compound Effect and it shows how overtime, even when you just do a little bit of something over a longer period, what a great development it can have.
39:06
Esther Bertram
So it doesn't matter. It could be the smallest thing. Any increase, even 1 % increase, can have a massive effect over a big time so. That's what you need to do, but we'll go through each of the departments and have a little look. So as I talked about in the last episode, mental space is to me, it's one of the key places. And actually I learned a bit more this week about the default mode network, or people call it DMN. And it's the part of the brain that. Has four main areas that it takes care of and one's about self reflection, the part where we think about ourselves and our emotional States and our personality traits and that reflection on who we are.
40:00
Esther Bertram
The second is. Our social evaluations, so that's empathy and morality and all social concepts. The fourth is memories. In the past, and listening to our inner narrator, I talked about that in the last episode, that storyteller that puts context over everything and creates our narrative that also lives in the default mode network. And also envision envisioning the future. So when we do meditation or even dream of the future and Daydream, that's in the default mode, network and it. This when we talked last week about the highways. This default mode network is that area where you're so used to travelling down those paths and if you listen to the last episode, by the way, I hope you have been trying some new.
41:04
Esther Bertram
Things in your life have to break out of your. Normal highways and going into some scenic routes and. The trouble is, when we stay on the regular highways in the default mode network, we there can be too much rumination about our lives and ourselves. And it's a safe and known path because and it can become habitual and it can also be where stress lives. So if you've. If you often think about the same things over, or you analyse the same emotional, social evaluations and you live in this part of your brain, it can be stress and anxiety inducing. And it's. A very good thing to do is to try to sometimes just alleviate that a little bit, get a little bit out and reduce our.
42:04
Esther Bertram
Default Mode network being. Activated all the time and. I actually watched this documentary last night on a BBC iPlayer. It's about drugs. I know last episode I said the fast way to access different places. You can do it with drugs, but I don't recommend doing it and I still don't. Especially if they're not tested and not done with therapy and not given by a professional. Because you don't. It's more risky for what you're taking. But it's fascinating that some silly cyclin and certain hallucinogenic drugs can be used in therapy for people that have had depression or PTSD because it helps them and they showed it on the brain, all the different areas of the brain that are suddenly lit up by certain trips that people can go on in an environment of therapy.
43:05
Esther Bertram
So it has to be the environment plays a big part. And these people were able to just do that once, basically like what we talked about on the last episode, going outside of the highways, going on those scenic routes and the connectivity of all of the areas of the brain. And were able to basically not be stuck in their default mode network anymore. And yeah, I think it's really important to do things in our life consciously as much as possible to.
43:41
Esther Bertram
Not just get stuck there because there's a lot of, there's a lot of things we can be in our own way when we're stuck there. So a big thing we can do is our meditation works. So mindfulness meditation because it can stop us wandering into those stressful areas so. I know a lot of wellbeing. Podcasts and articles will advise mindfulness and meditation, but it's for a good reason. Like there's apps as well like Headspace app you can get if you just want to do a few minutes here and there.
44:18
Esther Bertram
But it really does help. So to prove the point, we're actually going to do a very short on right this minute because. Mental space is often what's behind any of the other departments anyway. So we're just going to do a very short one. It won't be long. You just need to if you're driving or moving or responsible for somebody else right now, don't do it now, obviously, but if you've got time for yourself and can just sit quietly for one minute. And go on this journey, then I invite you to do so you just need to sit up straight.
44:58
Esther Bertram
That helps cross your legs. Put your hands in a balanced position on your knees. Just really relax every part of your body. And I just want you to. Concentrate on your breathing for a moment. Shut your eyes. And you're just going to watch your breath in and out as it. Breaths naturally and. I'll stop talking in a minute as well to give you the space to do this, but I'll just set you up for it first. Thoughts that come into your head as you watch your breathing. So you just watching it gently like a tide in and out as thoughts come in. Just see them like clouds in your blue sky of your mind.
45:45
Esther Bertram
Your blue sky is like the. Open mindfulness space. Just let the clouds go past. Allow them to be there, but don't struggle them. Just return back to your breath and try to allow that blue sky to. Go into an expansive mode so that the clouds which are the thoughts don't need to float in there as much. You know, you just allow the blueness to expand. If a thought comes in, see it like a cloud, it's okay. You can just let it be, let it float away.
46:23
Esther Bertram
And watch your breath. And then we'll come back after that, so I'm going to just put on some nice music for one minute only. And then we'll come back after that. Okay, you can gradually open your eyes. Yeah, I did it too, so I already feel like. Just creating that little window of space. In our hectic world, can do wonders like even if it's just a minute, it doesn't mean that it's only the value of 1 minute.
47:57
Esther Bertram
It can have a much bigger, higher value or helping you out of your default mode network and. Letting you have that little shift that you might need. And okay so if we look at the next finger emotions. Another thing, another meditation you can do actually is loving kindness meditation because it decreases any negative emotions and feelings related to yourself and. That's the first step towards having better relationships with other people, because you need to have the good relationship with yourself as number one because it's mirrored externally, and a good thing to do is to actually meditate on the five different.
48:41
Esther Bertram
Departments, so you've got the five fingers there already. So you can have a meditation where you go into a space and say positive affirmations in each of those departments about yourself. So I am mentally able to focus and I'm sharp in. Whatever it is you want to do, I am open and grateful for my life and my relationships. You know what I mean? So you can go through the fingers and make ur affirmations that you want to have as a loving kindness towards yourself.
49:19
Esther Bertram
And that's a beautiful thing you can do to just help. Turn the volume up of that so. Looking at the body, if there's. Things that just jump out to you, that you want to improve, if that's the area you're suffering with the most or you're not vibrant enough in. It could be anything about the body, like your food, what you're eating can be even your physical environments, or maybe your house is just a mess and.
49:46
Esther Bertram
You just that's the one area you keep failing in. You can go and watch some shows about how to clean your house or youtubes. They're pretty inspiring for that kind of thing. Maybe you're not going to the gym enough. You could write down one little thing you're going to do. You might download a sit up app and do 5 minutes a day everyday this week, and you've just begun that process.
50:09
Esther Bertram
From there it might grow. It could be sex. You haven't had sex for a million years and you know that. Life is short and. Well, there's plenty of ways to start that going UN I'm sure there's lots of apps out there. Everyone knows about I I've never been on one because I've started my relationship before all of those apps kind of came. Into being, but there are plenty of them out there I've heard from my friends. And basically just use this as use this five finger map you've got in your new diary as a way to goal set and set that intention in a written form because that will really help it start happening.
50:53
Esther Bertram
If you look at spirit or soul, it could be that you're not nourishing that for yourself enough, or you're not giving enough time to your connection with the universe. So all kinds of creative things you could be doing, like I mentioned in an earlier 1, the artist's way is a really good. Framework if you want to get in your creative flow. Maybe you need to spend more time in your spiritual world. Connecting with nature or the universe, just make a commitment what you'll do this week to increase that.
51:29
Esther Bertram
What makes you feel happy on a soul level? What can you do to make sure you do more of that this week? On a work level, now we're on purpose. What can you do this week towards your goal for your absolute ideal reality, where your skills and your passions are utilised? What are your skills and passions? Do you even know that? So you could start a process about that on a different page in your book? I do a lot of work ongoing work on all kinds of.
52:01
Esther Bertram
Self development from a work perspective in my book because I like refining and. Developing and pivoting and changing these kind of things to always get closer and closer towards my ideal. Anyway, so that's basically it in a in the first version. Now that's the five finger theory when you're looking at the 1-2-3 theory that you want to vibrate. Y number one is holistic wellbeing. So that's what we just did there with the five fingered theory number two is your mutually beneficial relationships so. If you want to amplify them and bring more to your number 2, the best first thing you can do is amplify your one, because the more you are a vibrant 1, the more you will attract.
52:55
Esther Bertram
Other vibrant TOS and they will be mutually beneficial. So if you want to turn up the volume of your mutually beneficial relationships in the heart section of your five finger theory, write down some things you will commit for yourself. This week it might be. Writing a letter every Friday nights to a different friend. Calling different family members once a week are going to new meet up groups that you've never been to and justice. Ohh just making any kind of commitment you know will develop that area. And the number three in the 1-2-3 theory purpose? We covered that a little bit in the contribution, but when you look at.
53:40
Esther Bertram
The best outcome for your skills and passions. You can also use the five finger theory to assess that so you can look at your work and ask yourself how does it mentally, emotionally, physically, soul level and use. Your skills and passions satisfy you so you can actually. Use the five finger theory to refine that job. If you're doing a job that you're just sitting behind a computer all the time, it might be really physically bad for you.
54:14
Esther Bertram
So is there a way you can still do that job where you're not behind the computer all the time? Maybe you're doing a job that's mentally so boring, but you know it makes you feel happy on the other levels. It's a really good way just to quickly calibrate what you're doing. And if you want to learn more about that, you can my 1-2-3 theory book which is coming out.
54:38
Esther Bertram
On the first of the second, twenty three one two 2-3-1-2-2-3 Ohh, good luck dives more into this. The other thing you can do daily is meditation. So if you go over to the inzal.com there's a free meditation that helps if anybody wants to do more. Daily intentions and getting that headspace. So that's about it for how you can start turning up the volume, I think that if we remember that life is short. If you imagine yourself at the end of your life and if someone was to paint you as a painting. Or you were going to paint yourself.
55:25
Esther Bertram
What do you want to be painted as? This bland kind of washed out colours? Bing creation or do you want to be painted as this vibrant, colourful, rich, amazing rainbow experience? Because if you want that, you 100 % can do it easily. It just takes that intention and then the commitment to putting in a bit of effort towards it. And over the time, a bit more effort, a bit more effort and you'll feel better from it anyway. So that'll give you more energy to put in even more effort. But you can. That's small because any increment helps a massive way and. If you want to be a super empath, I think that this part actually is via is vital to it.
56:18
Esther Bertram
Amplifying your vibrancy is one of the last steps actually to getting to your perfect garden so if you're still A 213 or A 321 I advise first focus on becoming A 123 so cleaning up your. Angulations you're in working out how to give yourself holistic wellbeing time out. Just becoming A 123 If you're further down the quest, you're a 1-2-3 but you're feeling a bit dull. Try some of the things I've mentioned today and it's almost like that part of the quest you're getting some secret jewels that you're that are your power weapons.
57:00
Esther Bertram
They almost can make you glow in the dark or some power like that. Because it's the last bit of this quest if you if you manage to turn the volume up. It's almost like the garden will just form around you. It's not like you even get there in a linear way. It's like once you get to that point and you've turned up your vibrancy and you're in a really strong 1-2-3 and all your cylinders are firing, it's almost like you don't have to go anywhere because the world around you. Bends to you as a mirror and you're there, so it's very exciting. And I'm I urge you to turn up the vibrancy volume because it's.
57:49
Esther Bertram
A vibrant 1-2-3 supreme path is the kind of empath you can yeah, morph realities. And help shape a better tomorrow for everyone ohh. Yeah, it's exciting and I look forward to seeing seeing all these vibrant empaths of the world leading a heartland society. And a big shout out today to the listener who asked this question. I hope this has helped in some way and I look forward to hearing about. Your Viber application process. Thank you very much for asking the question and giving me something to cover in today's.
58:34
Esther Bertram
Episode and I'll do another shout out, actually, to Wendie. She wrote me a lovely message about how she was moved by my first episode, and when I sang the song, free did a live version of it and apparently it brought her to tears because she's. Felt she's exactly at that place and it was one of those synchronicity. I don't know, she hasn't heard the synchronicity episode yep. But it sounded like one of those synchronicities that it just it all fits together and you getting a little clue from the universe that you're on path.
59:14
Esther Bertram
And even her just hearing that felt for her that it just confirmed she's where she needs to be. And it was really lovely to hear that. And thank you for telling me that, Wendie. It made my day. Makes me feel like. I'm making these for a reason, and yeah, I was really beautiful. And yeah, just let everyone know I've made a new link page. It's called Linksted Bertram Ucom, or you if you go to empath unplugged com, it takes you straight there basically that's where you can sign up to become a patron if you want to, and support these podcasts being made when you're a patron at any of the levels.
59:56
Esther Bertram
They start at 5$ a month. You get access to a private community chat. And my private online diary, where I'll put, you know, more deep and meaningful things like I talked about. Once I find that letter of manifestation for my ideal partner, when I unpack my boxes, I'm going to put it on there. And you can also ask for episode Pot to podcast episode topics and things like that. And I also am now selling commissions of if you want a children's book written about your child, or a painting, or even a song written, you can order that.
1:00:36
Esther Bertram
Now, through those links, I'm starting to bring my creative life more into my. Everyday life. So that's why I've set that up, because I've never really done any of my art for money. I just did it because I felt like it's what I needed to. But i want to morph more towards. Doing my creative things more full time. So that's why I've set up these options for people to become patrons or. Of Commission me to create something. So if you're interested, just head over to Empathempathunplugged.com And I'm going to finish today with song time, and it's going to be dedicated to last week's podcast and this week's one, because it's called Highways, and I've been talking about these highways of the brain.
1:01:25
Esther Bertram
And this lyrics sing highways in motion, so potentially motion into other scenic routes. And it also talks about putting the fear aside, not being afraid of. These motions, and it's it talks about letting the past provide. So when you're in the default mode, that's also where you think about the past and the future. So when you are letting the past provide the source or the roots for this new evolution of yourself.
1:02:05
Esther Bertram
It the future will then decide that's the lyrics of the song. Actually, the future will decide and. I think if you do, go beyond the highways and enjoy this wonder ride journey of Life and the absolute true miracle that it is. You can honour it and embrace it. Basically you just ride. This wonder ride and the lyrics of the song is all about these highways in motion and writing. I thought it's the perfect song for these topics. So this is from. The album I did with Charlie and called the Tea House and it's called Highways. From, yeah, 10 years ago. I think we wrote it. I don't know. 12 now. Yeah, this is highways.
